Okay, so heres what its been like. I broke up with a girl in about December because I was in it for the wrong motives, yet, all I seem to look for in women now is with, what is in my mind, wrong motives.
Now, I find myself hanging out, talking, and spending time with my ex again, and I'm fiding her even more attractive now than when I first started seeing her. Should I stick with my guns or give it another try?
2007-02-26 11:32:22 · 11 answers · asked by Sorry Brah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I broke up with her because of her lifestyle and choices made that I was unaware of
2007-02-26 11:37:00 · update #1
well u should probably consider what will it be like in the long run if you give it another try. do you think it will last? will it be worth putting ur heart on the line yet another time? you only have one heart you shouldnt continue to give pieces of it away to people your not completely sure about. its not worth it.
my first reaction would be to say stick to your guns, especially if your motives are not pure. trust me, from experience i know that acting on those motives are not worth it. it may be fun while it lasts though....
2007-02-26 11:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by holdmyhand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just hanging out with the ex for sex, then it is the wrong motive. And that may very well be the vibe you're giving out and what the women are picking up on...try just listening , and seeing what you have in common.
2007-02-26 11:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you are now attracted to her for the right motives. Maybe she's a better person than you realized before. In this case, give it another try, why not, as long as she is willing to do so as well. But if you are attracted to her for the same old reasons - then you are just one confused individual. It is better to get yourself unconfused before you break her heart.
2007-02-26 11:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you motives were? sex and emotional/physical motives or money and possession motives? if it the first one then stick with it it can turn into the best love you ever had. if its the second one then give it up! you have no feelings for anyone and are selfish. treat people the way you would like to be treated yourself!
2007-02-26 11:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think being friends with your ex is the best thing to do, if you are trying to find a new realtionship. people develop habbits that attract them to a certain type of people with both good and bad traits. but going after those bad traits all the time is not good. if you broke up with her you didnt want to be with her. so trying to rebuild a relationship will just make things go back to what they were. i have been in a situation that was the same. but when i got back with him. all of those bad things came back and annoyed me even more. but good luck with your own decision
2007-02-26 11:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi LaRue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
there's a reason she's your ex-
If you are REALLY serious about getting together with your ex- and she is really serious about getting together with you, the both of you will have to do a lot of hard work in sorting out what went wrong and how to put it right.
Doesn't often happen in this day and age. Easier to move on - so move on... or do the hard yards.
2007-02-26 11:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Motives? You aren't married. As long as she knows its casual, whats the big deal with the motives?
2007-02-26 11:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stick it out with her don't give up.
2007-02-26 11:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having trouble "reading" women.....try braille, little more feeling less talking.
2007-02-26 11:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
totaly up to you
if you figure women out let me know
2007-02-26 11:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋