I like to get things done early. I have sent emails asking the other girls to let me know what they think of choices i have tentatively made (waiting for their feedback). It's been over a week and I feel like I should just do what i have to do and let them know when they finally get back to me.
2007-02-26 11:26:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are you the MOH? Then yes, you are the key decision maker. You will never get 4 girls and two mothers to agree on everything, your best bet is to do what you have done. Email everyone with your idea, if you hear nothing back take that as your sign of approval and go with it. If someone does object to something, take it into consideration and deal with it accordingly. Even though you and the girls will be co-hosting, it will pretty much only be you that handles everything aside from the smaller jobs that you hand out to the girls (and even then you will keep up with the job to make sure its being done).
You are doing everything right.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 11:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How early is it? If its several months away, they just may not see the urgency you have ascribed to the situation. I am the Maid of Honor for a wedding in April, and I am basically doing the shower planning myself, with the help of 1 other bridesmaid. I don't know the other one's contact info and the other 2 are the fiancees teen children from another marriage, so I don't really think they can contribute much. I think you should come up with ideas, and wait for them to reply to you. I would send another email in a few weeks (if time allows) and see where that gets you. The Maid of Honor is responsible, so if you aren't her, you may be stepping on some toes, and I would then advise you to back off.
2007-02-26 19:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their responsibility to handle that, and I'm concerned that if they aren't on top of it, that perhaps they might let something else go by the wayside. However, try not to be a bridezilla - when is the wedding? The shower should be at least 1 month prior to the wedding - if it's not and it's actually 3 months away, try to chill out. Let them handle it, isn't that why you asked them to be attendants? Trust them to do things - their way. You can't ask people to do you a favor and then tell them HOW to do it. With that said, if it's a month or less away, and they aren't responding, then yes, by all means hand the reigns over to someone else, perhaps your mom or sisters - but it would be sad for you to have to plan your own shower. Good luck.
2007-02-27 13:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the hostess of the Bridal shower then the only feedback you need is from yourself. You were nice enough to try and get joint collaboration on this, but in the end you are the hostess of the party. In the end it is always the hostess who holds the power over the function not the attendees.
2007-02-26 19:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by tobyavrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? im going through the exact same thing, only im the bride. my MOH really didnt expect to throw a shower since im only getting into town 4 days ahead of time(my wedding is across country from where i live now). i never brought any of this up with her or the other girls, and only one of my maids lives over here w/ me, so i didnt expect to have one out here either. well 2 month ahead of time my future sister-in-law decided that i should have one anyway (VERY sweet of her, she's a bridesmaid, not the MOH, so thats even more sweet) and has been planning it out.
it will only be the day before the wedding and as it turns out, hardly ANY of my bridesmaids expected to actually BE bridesmaids in the normal sense that they attend things like this, help me out, etc. only half are bothering to make the time to go, which is upsetting, but oh well. anyway, while my future SIL was planning the shower, she tried many times to get in touch w/ my maids. i guess since they werent bothering to try to make it, they figured they would just not reply. oh well, i'll have my family, his (EXTENDED TONS OF THEM!) family, and 3 out of 6 of my maids (and my MOH will NOT be making it), and it will be a blast that they miss out on.
my point is, its VERY hard to get groups of people to cooperate in the planning, let ALONE show up (in my case). so please, go ahead with the plans, the bride will love you for it, and whoever shows up will have a blast doing what YOU planned out.
2007-02-27 05:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by crazydaisyodu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the maid/matron of honor or the person throwing the shower then yes. If you are not then I would not sweat it, let who ever is responsible do it.
2007-02-26 19:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You're the host, you're the planner. If they don't want to provide their input, they don't have to. But do they know that they're helping pay for it? They might be more inclined to get involved if they knew.
2007-02-27 10:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id do the same thing. if they dont want to respond or help out in anyway, then thats their own fault. dont worry about them, just make it a fun and happy day for the bride. she'll thank you for it.
2007-02-26 19:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them another email with a deadline for an answer, and let them know if you don't hear from them, you are doing this....then when they don't answer, they can't say they didn't know...
Good luck!
2007-02-26 19:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋