i work on the marine base and i meet alot of marines on the base there's a few that i really like and they all keep lying about something they lie and say they are not married or have a girlfriend and they say they don't have kids when they do. one of the guys i've been talking to for almost a year i recently found out that he has kids..he said that he didn't......there was another one that said that he was'nt married and i found out that he's been married for 13 years and has three kids. they don't know that i know this information and it's really hurting me how do i stop this? i have' nt been close to them or slept with any of them. why do guys lie like this? how can i get guys to be honest with me? no rude comments please just advice
2007-02-26 11:12:40 · 9 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would suggest that you consider relationships with the men who are interested in you as friendships only. hang out with girlfriends and get involved in local activities/groups to make your time more resourceful and have more things to do so you can avoid an emotional connection with a dude right now. make new friends...
i'm only telling you from past experience....i was in a relationship where i was being treated like a yo-yo in and out of this guy's life. got tired of it. so i began to build a life outside of waiting on him on his "off-season days" and i realised that there are so many things that a person can do out here as a single person, that there are people who are willing to be your friend without using you and that i couldnt be happy with anyone else until i learned how to be happy hanging out with myself and allowing new friendships to form and putting the time into developing them. i began to travel out of town alone when i wanted to go somewhere instead of waiting for "him" to decide if he wanted to go too. what really did it for me was that i began developed a deeper spiritual relationship with God and it's made a world of difference.
i began to realize my own worth and value and that i deserved better, and that whether i met Mr. Right or not, that i could be happy & single. and i am living out what i am telling you, and it feels great.
i wish you the best...hope my testimony helps....
2007-02-26 11:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is there is no way to force all of them to be completely up-front and honest with you. You're dealing with stereotypical guys who just want some action, and it's a shame children, a wife, and marriage have reached the point where they mean absolutely nothing.
The only thing I can suggest is to keep trying. Be open about yourself, and do not commit yourself early to any of them. Listen to them, learn about them, and eventually you'll fine someone who is decent, and caring, and not a lying scumbag. Not only will you find them, but you'll have real appreciation for their character when you realize how rare someone that honest and loving can be.
Good luck and stay tough.
2007-02-26 19:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Fiery|Fiesta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are male and on top of that they are marines, marines think they are the **** and no one can touch them no offense guys but your a marine ...when your in the airforce is when you can have that attitude. Hun you just need to leave them alone they obviously want more than your friendship or they wouldn't have lied to you about the wife and kids you just need to move onto better people who are honest to you.
2007-02-26 19:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren_Ann20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People lie because they want to avoid punishment, get something (like nookie), bolster a very weak ego by making themselves look good, and for some people, because they are completely compulsive about it. The best advice I can give you under these circumstances is to distrust all Marines and find another source of friends. Quakers might be good.
2007-02-26 19:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you probably already know the answer to this, don't you?
They just want to get into your pants, hon.
They come by lying naturally. But basically, every guy just wants one thing and obviously you've not been willing to give it to them. KUDOS TO YOU, GIRL!
Just assume all of them are "taken" and you won't get "played."
If you happen to really get "smitten" with one in particular, try asking his C.O. about his marital status.
2007-02-26 19:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it' just a service men's mentality. sort of 'eat,drink and be merry for tomorrow you may die' thing. no one who has not ben in the military can understand it. i am not defending servicemen on this issue however but i was in the military once myself and understand their thinking.
2007-02-26 19:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple,Stop looking for love at work.
2007-02-26 19:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from marines! they're away from their wives and girlfriends so long, they become horndogs!
find urself a nice civilian
2007-02-26 19:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Antoine J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they want to get in your pants and they don't want you to think there may be any restrictions
2007-02-26 19:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by *<dEzI>* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋