I have a very cute crush. And I have liked him for a very long time now. Can I be able to love him. Plus he already has a girlfriend named Allie. And I've been chasing love or like and love isn't chasing back. Should I stop chasing love too? Please help!!!
2007-02-26 11:11:34 · 46 answers · asked by In_Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have 2 options. But Really follow what your heart thinks! You can still chase the love, hopefully one day he will like you and he won't be with Allie, or you can go find a new crush. And of course a 13 year old can have a crush!
Wishin' all the luck to ya, gal!
2007-02-26 11:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant love a crush. Crush and love are two very different things and love goes far beyond the whole over dramatized, "everything is so happy and great and i love him oh so much" feeling. Love becomes love when things get to be more relaxed, the pounding heart comes to an end and yet your still so in love. I doubt you love him, at least right ow. I believe you can feel what you believe to be love, thats called infatuation and thats okay, its a great feeling. Dosent matter what you call it, it is what it is, but right now he has Allie, let the idea of being with him go. Chances are high they wont last long, then you can have your chance.
2007-02-26 11:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you´re way too young to be thinking about love, maybe it´s just a simple crush. I´ve liked guys that have had girlfriends, but I don´t go chasing them around. The guy likes Allie, and seems not so interested in you, so maybe you should just be friends with him and wait for that "someone" that likes you back...
2007-02-26 11:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by P@m3l@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no! Believe me you cannot love a crush. You can only truly love someone when they love you back. Love takes time to develop months or even years. Love is when you would give everything you care about to help that person and they would give everything they care about to help you. No matter how much you like this guy he is just a crush and he has a girlfriend. If you continue liking him it will just break your heart. Try to find another guy who is single. Anyway you do not need to fall in love yet. You are 13 and you have your whole life to find someone who you really love.
2007-02-26 11:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love a crush......it always confused me why adults say that teens can't love someone because they're too young, but if your parents died, wouldn't you be sad? angry? those are also emotions....love is a wonderful feeling, but it is also one that is dangerous.....take for instance your situation. Your crush is taken, and so therefore, it is dangeous for you to act on your feelings. Talk to an adult you trust about how to keep your feelings in perspective. Don't start slacking on school work or your obligations at home.
At some point, if your crush is free of Allie, it might work out for the two of you. In the meantime, enjoy being 13.
2007-02-26 11:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and heck no dont stop chasing love because because when him and his gf are over in about a week you will be availible and everyone including him will know you like him so yah hopefully hell go out with you
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2007-02-26 11:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that young love is the purest and truest love there is. So, I obviously think it's possible that you could love him. If you've liked him for a "very long time," you constantly think about him, and you picture your future with him in it...Then there's a good chance that you could love him.
If you just want to kiss him, if you just want him because someone else has him, and/or your feelings are based purely on physical attraction, then it's just infatuation.
Good luck, sweetie!
2007-02-26 11:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by calypso_suicide 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love isnt really something that you ask to be allowed to do. If you Love him then you just know. But if you arent even with him how can you really even fully know him. In my opinion, you have to truely know someone to be able to Love them. "Love at first sight" is a strong attraction that can bloom into Love, but I dont think it is really Love to begin with. If he is with someone else then I wouldnt interfer with it. Not to say that you may not have an opportunity down the road if he becomes single, but I would go on with your life and maybe see other people to learn about relationships more then focus on just him.
2007-02-26 11:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Vettepilot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be in love. I have loved this guy since the seventh grade, this other girl likes him and I think he knows I like him, or at least knows I used to, and now I am just keeping my feelings inside. Either way, you are never too young for love!
2007-02-26 11:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by o_0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetie ok so i've been in this situation before and i totally know how you feel, and the same thing happend to me what i have to say to you is: if he already has a girlfriend then try to find somone else that you may like alot and try to talk to him and see if you have anything in common. And remember the one you may think you love allways has a major defect and turns out to not be the one so keep your mind open and be picky!
2007-02-26 11:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by a-hepburn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋