Can a one year old be spoiled?

Question

Btw, this is not my child, but the child of my employer. By spoiled, I meant allowing him to roam freely around a place of business and get into supplies he ought not to.

Answer 1

If you give baby everything he points to so that he won't cry, then you are "spoiling" the baby. This is usually not a problem at 1 but it will be a problem soon. Start thinking about when to give baby what he wants, and when you should say no. By 18 months the tantrums will start, and you will want to have a plan. Baby should not be allowed to point to things in the grocery store and scream until they are given to him. 18 month old baby should not get to decide how much TV he gets to watch. You decide when to turn the TV off. You decide how many cookies baby gets. If he screams for more, don't give in. When you start giving into crying and bad behavior just to make that behavior stop, you are spoiling the baby.

Answer 2

keep in mind direction should happen when there is real need for it, as in if something is dangerous, like shaking furniture, hitting other children, biting, or pitching fits when other children, especially if they are also young are being tended to, a child should not suffer anxiety just because an adult is around the corner preparing a bottle or food, one year olds understand no and are capable of stopping behaviors that don't produce pleasant results ie, fussing from a parent or caregiver- refusing food, spitting and other behaviors that you want decreased should be consistently responded to with firm, no no's, I babysit and while a parent can do whatever they like, when you take care of someone else's child it is immediately obvious when a child is spoiled

Answer 3

It depends on the meaning of the word "spoiled"! If you consider a one year old child crying to be picked up, fed, fussed with, cuddled or just anything that has him/her seeking physical attention from a parent, then absolutely not!

A one year old child operates with very little understanding of the world around him. He needs physical contact to connect and bond and to develop brain cells. Just because you want to do something else at the same time he wants you to play with him or cuddle him, does not mean you should ignore the child. That means you are the one who is spoiled!

If by spoiled you mean he gets too many toys from Nana and Papa, or other people who want to buy things for him, just give him one or two at a time. I do not consider that to be spoiled either. The people who are raining presents on him may need to be reeled in a bit, but the child can't help that!

If spoiled to you means he has behavioral problems, like not sharing, not wanting to eat dinner, crying about going to bed, or constantly touching things, you don't want him touching, then work with him but do not punish him! He is merely exploring and developing and understanding of his environment. Don't slap his hand if he touches something you don't want him to touch! Move the item out of his way until he's old enough to understand the item is not for his use. At this age, the entire World and everyone in it are his as far as he knows! At one year old they are too young to understand why they are being punished by these awful people who brought them into the world and He may spend the rest of his life wanting to crawl back in!

So, meat can be spoiled, milk can be spoiled, plans can be spoiled but a one year old baby, in my opinion cannot be spoiled!

Please don't listen to those people who think a child should be disciplined early and often! The people who were parents in the 50's and even the 60's thought it was just fine to spank or slap a little baby! That is child abuse now and it should be treated as such. But I susect you are talking about picking him up when he cries.

Pick him up, forget about the laundry, the dishes, your make-up, even your sleep to be there for that child at this very important time. Understand that just because a child stops crying when you pick him up it doesn't mean he is spoiled! He is simply reacting to the warmth and attention he so badly needs.

Love him to pieces, you cannot spoil a child with too much love! There is no such thing. :-) It goes so fast!

Answer 4

No, I really hate the hard a$$ attitude toward children. Up until about 3 or 4 they need all the love and security they can get. Not that they don't later, but I just they they are still babies up until 3ish.

Also remember that kids hear NO so much, for dangerous things etc. it is good to pick your battles and let them feel they have some control over their lives or they will develop learned helplessness.

Answer 5

Whether or not the child is spoiled depends on the attitude, not the behavior. If he willingly stops when told to, by you or the parent, he's not spoiled. If he throws a big fit, he is. HOWEVER, that's not his fault, at the age of one, it's totally his parent's fault for allowing this behaviour to continue unchecked.

Answer 6

Not really. A one year old is very dependent and needs a lot of attention. He or she is unable to feed, dress or bathe without someone. They cry a lot, primarily because they get exercise that way and it is the only way they know of to get attention. Parents shower attention on them because they are developing and learning things at a very fast pace and you don't want to miss any of it. This attention is not spoiling, it is natural and almost instinct.

Answer 7

All kids can be spoiled at any age. lol

Ok, now that you put it that way, then yes and no. Do they discipline him at all? Do they show him that getting into supplies and things that do not belong to him is wrong? 1 year is early yes, but its not too early to begin teaching him what not to do. They learn quickly at that age. My son is 2 next month, and he is starting to stretch the limit a bit by doing something hes not supposed to, and he knows hes not, and hes looking over his shoulder to see if we are watching. Before we can tell him to "don't pull the kitty's tail!" or "stop banging on the tv!" the minute we open our mouth, he backs away and looks at us like, "You talking to me? What did I do?" We started early, the minute he learned to walk and really get into things by tapping him on the hand or showing him how dangerous something could be. they are curious little boogers but they have to be shown whats right from wrong or else they will never learn. What about if the child picks up some dangerous scissors? Do they take them from him? Do they show him how bad they can be? Or even an inkpen can poke him in the eye and be very dangerous. they have to be SHOWN and TOLD NO or else they will end up in juvie hall someday like my own cousin. My aunt let him run the house. She NEVER disciplined him. Gave in to him every time he screamed. Let him run all over the store unattended when she was shopping. Now hes doing time in prison for armed robbery and drug charges. She regrets not showing him right from wrong and letting him "be himself, its so cute!" How is it cute when hes running around with a pair of scissors and could possible fall and seriously injure himself? There is a right way and a wrong way to spoil a child.

Please be more specific when you ask next time and you wont get such negative answers.

Spare the rod, spoil the child...

Answer 8

No! A one year old is exploring their enviroment. How else do you learn? If they're getting into your things at work just try to be patient. They do not know that they are doing anything wrong!

Answer 9

Not exactly, because one year olds do need a lot of attention...but I guess if you buy them too many clothes/toys, that could be considered spoiled...?

Answer 10

yes my pediatrition said you cant spoil them under a year but you have to set bounderys over one