Why is he acting like this???

Question

After we broke up my ex said we would still be friends. He would still talk to me and hang out with me and our friends. But then he started to avoid me. It's gotten to the point where I'll walk up to our friends and he'll just turn his back on me. He won't even look at me. He dosn't talk to me at all. He won't go to any of the after school clubs we were both in before either, and won't tell his best friend why he decided to quit. We had a pretty mutual break up, he just didn't want to be with me anymore and I didn't plan on staying in a relationship where I wasn't wanted. I never did anything to hurt him. He has told me he dosn't love me anymore and that he never wants to be with me again over e-mails so I know he dosn't have feelings for me. So why can't he just be my friend? I'm not trying to get him back, but it makes things kind of weird when hes avoiding me and I don't want to lose a friend. Maybe I can fix it if I know why hes being like this. Any ideas?

Answer 1

He just said you be 'friends' after you broke up because it was what you wanted to hear(guys do this a lot).

He does not want to be friends. You do not exist to him any more. He does not want to see you or talk to you or even know you are there.

Answer 2

Are you in high school? if so, he's doing this because he's in high school and he's immature. Now, he probably feels bad because you're nice and he doesn't feel good about hurting you. YOU CAN NOT FIX THIS. If you go up to his friends and he walks away, then he is feeling bad and can not face you. Just leave him alone and let his own life go its own course. Keep going to your after school clubs and don't worry about if he makes an appearance. Only time will tell if he stops acting all weird around you. And then, maybe you can be friends.

Answer 3

well there could be many reasons why hes acting like this. but my guess would be maybe its just too hard for him to be friends with you after things you've been through. && if so then you gotta understand that. but try asking him whats wrong and tell him how you feel. && if nothing changes after a while then just try and let go. we don't always get what we want in life and it sucks but life goes on. his loss not yours cause you tried. but who knows maybe after a while he will realize that your gone and he wants you back as a friend. guys usually are like that. they never know what they have till its gone. and if he realizes your not trying anymore then maybe he'll come around to you. but good luck with everything!

Answer 4

well, the problem here is: he doesnt like you. not sure why this happens, i've been in the same situation. i just walked away after a while and said screw you, if you ever need me, ill be here. she hasnt called me in over a year as of midnight US east coast time. so, i call her every so often, maybe once every other week, if i feel like it. i always leave messages, i never talk to her. say hi, its me, just seein if you're doin fine. love you, goodbye. all i say.


simply put, there may not be a way for you two to still be freinds, but you need to make sure he knows you are there for him if he needs you for something. a few of my friends have done that, and they ended up gettin married, and are workin strong :)

Answer 5

honestly I'm 16 i dint know how old you are u theres what im getting at. me and my girl have been dating for over a year and a couple months she broke up with me once i didn't say anything or do much just walked away. then i got passive aggressive which means as soon as it sunk in my head i was ripped. i tried to to anything she told me not to do while we were dating i was hurt and i avoided her for like 4 days because i was hurt emotionally and i thought that i would try to act like someone i wasn't to try and make her jealous that i was single again like telling her i was going to a party to get laid or something but that's the best advice i can give you is hes mad not at you but at himself on the inside hes confused and trying to act like someone hes not to make you jealous and if hes like me hell calm down and come to his senses. hope you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Maybe email him and let him know how you are feeling. Maybe he can't handle seeing you or being near you because he realizes what he lost or maybe he thinks if he pays you any attention you might take it the wrong way. Just try letting him know you are just wanting a friendship and when you are around him just don't pay any mind to him.

Answer 7

wow we bascially have the same situation except for my ex left me for someone else. i dont understand either why they act like this we never did anything to them. they have no feelings for us so why cant they just be big people and be our friends? personally i think that although they have no feelings for us they still have that feeling that they know that they once loved us and they dont want to see us with other people. but over all i have no idea if you figure it out give me a email.

good luck thanks

Answer 8

hey gurl,
the only thing i can i say is just try to ask him why he wont talk to u anymore or get one of yall friends to do it for you. the other thing i can say is just leave it alone and hopeful he will come around and start talkin to you, he might just need time to get back to begin himself sumthing like dat and he also might think you want him back and u just might have to tell him you dont want him back if u havent already. well i hope ive help u in anyway

Answer 9

ummmmm give him some time me and my bf broke up like a week ago and he told me we could still be friends but he's not talking to me as much we actually we barly ever talk im just gonna give my ex some time and you should do the same

Answer 10

If u don't want to be w/ someone who doesn't want u then obviously he's not the one. get over him and move on. maybe he told u that to make it easier. nobody that breaks up really ever become friends again...eerrr well they do but not the same as before. if he wants to act shisty let him. he ain't worth it.