Is 13 the hardest age for a kid?

Question

Hears the deal. I am 13 year old in the 7th grade. I am a shy, perfectoinist who is very depressed. I am dreading every moment of my life. I am ready for it to end. I would be to chicken to do suicide and I know how bad that would hurt not only me, but my parents, family, and friends. But I do feel I need to do something to make all my problems end. I can't tell my parents because they are on planet parents where all parents are just clueless. I am afraid I will start cutting myself, committing suicide, ect. People I have asked on Yahoo! answers have been telling me to go out and play a sport, but I do. I have tennis every day except Sunday. I am #1 seed on my middle school team. I have Church Sunday though. I know I am young to be depressed, but, yet, I am. I grades are starting to drop. I have always had all A's, but now I have about 3 B's. (Which is a big deal to me.) I am afraid I will drive myself crazy trying to be this unreal thing called perfect everybody thinks I am. MORE...

My reading teacher can tell I have been depressed. About 2 months ago she asked me what was wrong. I told her nothing even though I knew I had been depressed. She sent me to the counselors office anyway because she knew I was lieing. I would not tell them a thing, so they let me go. Now I regret I didn't tell them. My teacher has finally stopped asking me. I wish she would again though. I would tell her the truth this time.
I know suicide is bad, but it is still tempting. 2 of my cousins have done suicide, so I am starting to wonder if depression runs in my family. My mom and grandpa take these pills to make them happy. I don't know what they are called I just say, "Mom, have you taken a happy pill?" knida as a joke when she is in a bad mood.
But I just want help. I want to tell my teacher how I feel, but I am to shy to just go up to her or write her a note. PLEASE HELP ME!

I know I am asking the same kind of questions every day but I just want help or advise that I am brave enough to do! Please. I am not trying to be a burden.

ya know the song over my head? Well, this is how I feel.
I never knew
I never knew that everything was falling through
That everyone I knew was waiting on a queue
To turn and run when all I needed was the truth
But that's how it's got to be
It's coming down to nothing more than apathy
I'd rather run the other way than stay and see
The smoke and who's still standing when it clears

Everyone knows I'm in
Over my head
Over my head
With eight seconds left in overtime
She's on your mind
She's on your mind

Answer 1

Wow ....you've put a lot of weight on yourself ....obviously a good head on your shoulder to have such good grades ....maybe too much concentration of pleasing others and life demands ...rather than your self ...what things do you look forward to ???? what things do you involve your self into that really make you feel grateful ??and others grateful for you being there ??? ....just a thought .....good luck

Answer 2

Im three years older than you and 13 is a tough age. I was the same way at 13 but i spiraled into self mutilation, drugs, and lieing. The depression can make you turn anyway for release. You don't want to be like how i was over 12 tapemted suicides later im still alive. But, many people i know weren't so lucky. Doing what i did will make things worse insted of making the better. Go talk to your counsler if you don't want to talk to your mom. They will be so thankful that you came to them and that they caught the depression and can help you. Just tell someone they can help. I have been in therapy and it's done wonders for me. I hope it would be able to help you. Good luck and please tell someone.

Answer 3

Tennisluver,
You need to be speaking with that teacher, not spending your time asking questions here. We cannot help you, but only encourage you to do what you know is the answer. That is to approach and tell your problem to your counselor, teacher, parents, or another adult who will listen and help you. There are many ways to deal with depression, such as medication, talking to a therapist, etc. You don't have to live this way. Take that first step and talk to an adult who will listen to you. Do it today, you'll be glad you did.
Joy Full

Answer 4

School counselors can be a lonely bunch. No one wants to talk to them, because then that might mean the person is labeled "crazy"..Counselors have a job to do and they know how to do it and they want to help people, but it is hard to do that if people won't let them help. They are not aliens from outer space...they are just people who want to help and be needed by helping people...Please consider talking to one, it would make them feel needed and good.

If not, there are suicide helplines you can call anonymously to talk to someone. It is hard to see the answers to your problems when you are depressed, but sometimes someone else CAN see solutions or ideas to help you. Other options are ministers, family, friends, teachers,etc..

I hope you can find a way to allow yourself to trust someone to talk to them about your problems. Everybody has problems. They may be different problems, but they still have them, no matter how much it looks like they don't.

Answer 5

Sweetheart, you're asking the same thing all the time, and I am nearly sure I already answered you before. Instead of always asking the questions here, which I feel is a cry for help, you should go to your parents or school councellor or doctor for that matter and tell them exactly how you feel. Since you go to church I would even advise you to speak to your pastor or priest.

Answer 6

ASK FOR HELP!! i KNOW HOW IT FEELS!! JUST GO ASK FOR HELP!! i WENT THROUGH THE SAME EXACT THING WHEN U FEEL LIKE THE WORLD IS CAVING IN ON U AND THERE IS NOTHING U CAN DO ABOUT IT! JUST WRITE A NOTE IF U R TOO SHY! OR TALK TO A FRIEND WHO U REALLY CARE ABOUT WHO CARES ABOUT U 2! DONT JUST START THINKING IM DEPRESSED IT RUNS IN MY FAMILY!! ITS NOT TRUE!! YOU CAN FIX IT! JUST THINK OF ALL THE POSITIVES IN YOUR LIFE!! iTLL B OK!

Answer 7

13 years old now these days is tough, you dont have to do it alone. Go see a doctor that can help you right away. Special help and meds are critical.