How can you possibly be with someone that..?

Question

that has kissed someone else and gone further, said they loved them, wanted to be together forever with them, and all other stuff.

It just doesn't make me feel special knowing that I'm not first and that she 'loved' someone before and wanted to be together forever. It just hurts. Could you be with someone that was dedicated to someone and wanted to be with them forever, and loved them?

How should I deal with this. I know girls who feel the same when its about a guy, but I think I'm the only guy that feels like that

No answerers under 18 please. Thanks

Answer 1

Of course. Look everyone has a past, it is not fair to judge your girlfriend on hers, she doesn't judge you I assume. My first real boyfriend and I dated when I was 17 and yes I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life but I grew up. I opened my eyes and saw what and who he really was and we broke up. People evolve, their emotional persons as well. What I found attractive at 17 is not the same necessarily at 31. You become more in tune with yourself, more comfortable in your own skin, and you grow up. This is normal. My boyfriend and I both have had past relationships but we are not there for a reason now, we were not satisfied, physically, mentally and emotionally. That's why we found each other, to complete each other and be together forever. You kiss a lot of toads to get there sometimes, that is what she has done. And you probably have too, give her some slack.

Answer 2

im sure both guys and girls feel the same way about this situation.....i use to have the same problem with my boyfriend....he had a really strong relationship with his ex......HOWEVER........we have now been dating for over two years,
but the wierd thing is the more you think about it and stress about and feel shitty over "what they had as a couple" the more it ruins your relationship from developing into something more special. Its hard to just not think about it at all cause even if you stop thinking about it ......one random day it will pop into your head and it sucks BUT when that happens just think about you and your partner and all you two have shared together and how great your relationship and connection is....it helps because you just have to tell yourself that what you have now with that person is the only thing that matters not what they had before....its hard to believe but if they really care about you the past really dosnt matter anymore

Answer 3

im a girl but i know exactly how it feels. My husband used to be with this real prett girl named savannah and i hate her so much because of how i heard they loved each other and she was going to have his baby so i know how that made him feel. he loved her so much and he did things with her that he doesnt do with me, but up to this day i think if he misses her or the sex. it was something that i knew i was getting into the day i married him but i know i have treated him better and am going to. Just try to let the past be the past and look forward to the days u have ahead you and dont look back. Who cares if your 2nd she with u know and thats all that matters.

Answer 4

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The girls here in the Philippine Province don't normally whore around because of their loving homelives and honor to the family.
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Answer 5

Your problem is that you are very immature.
If you had a grown up attitude about this or had been through a similar situation then her past would be irrelevant to you, as it should be.

Answer 6

you have to get used to it in our culture. we do change partners on occasion.other cultures dont do that but i bet there are a lot of woman and men in unhappy relation ships.with no way out.