I know long distance relationships have gotten easier with the internet, e-mail and cell phones. However, there are people out there that don't believe in long distance relationships. Well, in my case is an ex who doesn't believe in long distance relationships. I knew this before we started dating and while we were together it was an issue. Now we are broken up BUT some days ago he said that he didn't leave me because he stopped loving me. It was because the long distance issue wasn't going work for him. So my question is , can a man really give up/ pass out on someone he trully loves simply because this person is in another country?
2007-02-26 10:50:26 · 23 answers · asked by EV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi if u really truly love someone but realizes that the distance between u makes it impossible for u to make a life together - then the best way is to stop the relation - not because u stop loving the person but bcs u love the person that much that u want to give him/her the possibillity to move on with the life and get a more stabil relation. On the other hand - if the love is strong enough u will first of all try out ALL options before u give up- best wishes for u
2007-02-26 11:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by leifp2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to base this answer on somewhat old school upbringing. True, the technological era has brought about more easier L/D relationships. But is the L/D relationship formed by the intellectuals of one or the other, or is there a more spiritual basis. In other words, is there just the mind or the heart. The heart's needs are more physical; closeness, touching, eye-balling, whispering, etc... while the mental part only involves the intelligence of the other. Both function as the attraction units to an individual but if there is separation for a period of time, these units are weakened and become unsupported. Guys are romantic even though they deny it but they can give up a relationship in the search of what was just said.
2007-02-26 19:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is really hard to maintain a relationship that is a couple hundred miles away let alone in a whole different country. Most people like the fact that their partner is close, touchable, can easily be seen... long distance makes that really hard to achieve. Also he may love you very much, and therefore doesnt want to end up hurting you if he has physical needs that need to be met, if you catch my drift. If it is meant to be you guys will find a way to make it work. In the meantime though, try ot meet other people who are around your general vicinity.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 18:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would say that he does love you alot but he does not want to get hurt by not having the relationship work out with someone he loves so much. He probably thinks he would destroy the love more by going out with you because you are so far apart. Who knows he might be saving this relationship for when he moves to where you live.
2007-02-26 18:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this dude is in another Country. I was thinking maybe 3 states away wow. He may love you but you guys are thousands of miles away. There is no way that that could work out. I mean you have the intimate conversations but whats missing??? The ability to touch you, kiss you, hug you. He can tell you he loves you day in and out. But his problem is that he cant show you and its killing him that he is not feeling your touch or taking you out. So to answer your question YES they can. Its much easier
2007-02-26 18:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Im just tooooo freakin cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time to build. You cannot build a relationship when you are seperated. The relationship is on hold...
Now if you have already built the relationship and know you are going to seperated for a certain amount of time... But even those have impacts. Some marriages don't even survive this.
A~
2007-02-26 19:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not just men that do this. everyone is capable of loving and leaving. for some its not being able to trust the other person. other its they want someone who is there for them, for fun and in the sh*tty times. whats the point of a relationship where you can not be fully happy. life is over in the click of the fingers and who wants to live it on their own? we only fall in love so someone is there for the ride of life and is a witness of what we do, not so they can wonder what your up to. and while someone is not with you dont you just a bit always wonder what they are doing and you miss out on opportunities right infront of you. so really everyone can love but some of us wonder too much about the other person to live their own life. i hope that made a bit of sense... hehe bye!
2007-02-26 19:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men need to be nurtured, 24/7. Not necessarily every stinkin' Day? But pretty close to it. If you're not around to make him feel manly? He's gonna get the wondering Eyes. It probably means, that he's found another Stable to park in. Sorry!
2007-02-26 18:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it could be hard there will be trust issues like if he didn't answer the phone or your e-mail or if he called u and the same thing happened it will cause and argument every time u do talk to each to other. don't be upset with him because things like that will happen some people can deal with it and some people cant and maybe he doesn't want to deal with it.
2007-02-26 19:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a realist. He knows that it's not gunna work out, so way waste time dealing with somethign that only casues frustration and heartache and makes both of you miss out on what else is out there. Unless you are willing to move yourself, rember him fondly and get on with living.
2007-02-26 18:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋