My dad and step mom said i get on their nerves and they want to put me in a home. i have no idea wat i did wrong all i asked was y they always go in my room when im not home and go through my notebooks and read them. ( the notebooks are sort of like a diary to me) and they started flipping out and saying they are tired of me. i mean idk how i get on their nerves when im at my grams most of the time or in my room. But i dont think that they will allow me to move out with my godparents if i were to ask. idk wat to do. any advice? plz no dumb answers this is serious.
2007-02-26 10:49:16 · 14 answers · asked by dream21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, Well if your parents are saying this to you for starters I am very sorry to hear this and if I were in your shoes if you feel they are serious about it maybe you should talk to your godparents because you don't want to be put in the system trust me I have been there and done that okay. What you need to do is go talk to your godparents and if there is no resolution there then you should talk to other members of your family like Aunts and Uncles. Let them know what your parents are saying so if they do try and put you in a home one of your other relatives will let you live with them, rather than living with strangers.
Stay strong and know that you can get through anything, just keep your head up.
2007-02-26 10:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you believe that this has nothing to do with you, but with the fact your stem mom wants your dad all to her self and your dad wants a lady in his bed.
I bet they would let you move in with your godparents. Besides they can't put you in a "home" without proving there is no where else to go.
Can't you go live with your mom?
Sorry you are not being brought up in a loving home, but my advice for you is stop trying to find someone to love you. Stop having sex with your bf who is a jerk and can not help you live a better life (read your other e-mails) You need to take this time to study, study, study, get a job in an intern position so you can make good money and move out and get away from your sick father and step mother.
2007-02-26 18:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad & I feel badly for you. Your dad & step mom have no right to read your diaries, etc. They do because they don't have a good relationship with you, so they have to invade your privacy. Is it possible for you to go & live with your gram, if you can't make living arrangements with your godparents? You need to talk to your godparents & tell them what type of home youa re living in. Sometimes, people are shocked at what goes on behind closed doors. I wish you all the best!
2007-02-26 18:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think YOU are the one on their nerves.
It is more than likely some bills or something that they cannot pay.
YOU are not a Nerve Breaker!! You are a very beautiful person,and GOD loves you,and understands what you are going through.
I would contact my school counselor even if it means you may even be late for class. I would let her know about all of this. I do think this is MENTAL ABUSE to you.
I do not think they would ever put you in a home.They are more than likely just talking. Please contact 911,and even let them know about this if your counselor cannot help you out. This is just what I think,and what I would do. Even if they did put you in a home you would LOVE it in the home ,at least you would not have to hear this,and I think the home would allow you to have a diary privately. God Bless You Always
2007-02-26 19:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and tell them if they really want you to move that you would like to live with your godparents at least temporarily. Maybe you shouldn't write in your notebooks for awhile or at least be nice in the ones that they will be reading and keep the real one hid away where they can't find it. Maybe talk to your school counselor. Sometimes an outside party is needed.
2007-02-26 19:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeepers! Sounds like you're really going through a rough period right now. You say you're with your dad and step mom. Is your birth mom still in the picture? Would it be possible to move in with your grandma? Is this something you can maybe even speak to your grandma about? I can't figure out why they say you get on their nerves. That's just so wrong!
2007-02-26 20:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by ladydi_1987 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they abusive and beat you? If so, call the police. How old are you, under 18? Do you not want to live with them? If you would ask them if you can live somewhere else and they say 'yes' then maybe you should. Not enough details to give you a really good answer though. Good luck, I hope that stuff turns out okay for you!
2007-02-26 19:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I go in my kids room alot because i want to know what they are doing because they dont talk to me any more, its the only way i cand find out whats up with them. i would never say i dont want them any more. have you tried sitting them down and talking to them about how it makes you feel when they say that? I think comunication between parents and kids really needs to be put out there if the kids talk to the parents more the parents wouldnt feel the need to go through your things to see what your doing.
2007-02-26 18:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by David R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you have no idea whey they are fed up with you. I think you know exactly why! Are you a good daughter? Do you respect your family? Do you do as your are asked? Ask yourself the tough questions and work on fixing them. Tell your parents how you plan on making things better.
2007-02-26 19:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this! My mom(adopted) said to me once "why did I adopt, my friends told me never to adopt". She also threatened many times to put me in a home. But everyone in my family abused me, so I acted out. In your situation, I suggest you move out if you can. Is counceling a possibility? If they won't go, then you should so you can try to figure this out. I feel so bad for you!!
2007-02-26 19:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋