Hey...im confused. just found out that a guy whos been a friend has fancied me for ages.He is a colleague of mine and weve always got along well.Over the 2/3 years ive known him, hes visied my home, watched my band rehearsals but never told me how he felt.The past 2 months or so , jhis texts starting becoming complimentary ie you look great today etc.Anyway, i responded and we continued int his way for a while.During texting, he admitted his feelings and i was flattered.He then told me that he didnt want a relationship as hed been hurt before and didnt want to hurt me.I new what i was getting into but hoped hed change his mind.He didnt and so i text him saying that i had regretted our night together as i thought hed never feel comfortable areound me again ie if i went to his home etc the text hurt him but ithought that considereing he didnt want a relationship, itd be better to say that ather than tell him how i really felt.Anyhowse,im confused as he appears to have withdrawn
2007-02-26 10:41:24 · 6 answers · asked by bmw.girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy appears to be confused. You shouldn't worry so much about his feelings, but rather your own. If you feel that what he is doing hurts you, then you should leave him for a better guy, a guy that's more sure of himself.
I've had a guy do that to me, I felt terrible, but then a friend told me to just "forget about him." Now, he's fine, I'm with a guy who loves me, and me and the other guy are really good friends.
A relationship can't start over texting, texting and only end one. Same with IM. If he/you wishes to say something, you should take the time to call each other or meet in person, don't text.
Good Bye and Good Luck
2007-02-26 10:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very different than us females. I am sorry you felt hurt, I know it must be hard to hear that. Also i do believe he is trying to not hurt you further by having a relationship with you then later when you are even closer having to break it of then. I can understand where you are coming from, but at the same time it must be hard for him. I am sure he wanted to just be friends with you, but not a serious relationship.
There is a book that I would recommend. It talks about how guys work, and how they think. It is called, "For Woman Only." The person who wrote it surveyed men from the ages of 20-75. It is a really helpful book.
2007-02-26 10:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel 4u but to tell u tha truth u alwaya kno wut ur gettin urself into but not always u can resist it.......ur a very strong person 4letting go tha way u did its a very hard accomplishment n it probly means nuthin but im proud of u!
very proud
_jasmin
2007-02-26 10:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that does not sound good. it sounds like u got played for a night.
2007-02-26 10:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by david w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u hurt his feelings really bad... and since hes been hurtt before he is upset.. try talking too himm andd see wut happends. =]
best of luck. my wishes to ya>!
2007-02-26 10:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out yourself
2007-02-26 10:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋