And He's probably not even looking my way!, and he likes my cousin who is his age and I think she likes him back. And I'm really happy for her too, but he's such a nice guy and he's cute, funny, an AMAZING musician, and much more! So...what's a girl to do? HELP ME!, PLEASE!
2007-02-26 10:41:12 · 3 answers · asked by Einsteinette 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said that this guy that is much older than you. You failed to mention the age difference. I would say that the age is not relevant, unfortunately it does make a difference.Even if your cousin was not involved, getting involved with an older man does present problems from the beginning. I would imagine by what you mentioned-cute,funny, and amazing musician that he is already involved with situations that are important to him. He is interested in another woman. He probably is living his life as he wants to and does not want to be involved with someone younger. Again I am not aware of the ages or differences. Most older men seem to be "SET" intheir lives and expect certain things from a significant other.That in itself presents problems already. You mentioned that he is a musician-Does he travel from place to place and is he ready to make a commitment to only one person? He may have eyes on your cousin , but that really does'nt mean he is ready for true love, only a good time. I am not trying to prejudge your friend, I only know what I have seen and situations as these usually do not work out. If you have a crush on this guy and feel that you are ready for a relationship then you probably need to confront him of how you feel. Be very careful, sometimes someone will take advantage of the situation and you could get hurt if this happens you could get into trouble, he also could expect you to participate in situations that you really are not ready for. I would suggest that you enjoy the music and be careful. Is he really worth losing your cousin and setting yourself up for a big disappointment. I wish you the best. Be careful and not let him or your feelings for this man cloud your judgement. Be safe not sorry. I know this sounds corny but this is about the best advice I can give based on the information you gave to us.
2007-02-26 11:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't get involved with him if he likes your cousin, that could hurt her and your also not 100 percent sure whether he likes you or not, you mentioned he doesn't even look your way meaning he doesn't even notice you? (at least that's what I think) there's alot of great guys out there, don't let him limit your options, keep an eye out for other guys....you never know what might happen, hopefully you'll find a great guy just as your crush is. Maybe you should talk to your crush and ask him if he likes you as a friend or more than just that, see hows it goes...you know? Or you could also be friends and take it to another level.....just see where it goes from there, if it doesnt work out between you two then I guess it wasnt meant to be. Well good luck with your crush :)
2007-02-26 18:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a lot older than you and looks like he's interested in your cousin, you walk away. Doing anything will only be problematic for you.
2007-02-26 18:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋