My boyfriend wants to have sex, but i'm confused! HELP!!!?

Answer 1

In this question, you are effectively asking whether or not you should let your boyfriend force you (or convinve you - same thing) into having sex with him, while in another question you ask what it WILL be like when you start to have a period. This tells me that you are very young yet. I'm curious as to how old your boyfriend is. If he's in the same 11-13 age range that you probably are in, then he's both a fool and a jerk. If he's in the 16-18 range, he's trying desperately to take advantage of you. If he's in the 18+ age group, he's attempting to commit a felony crime.

REGARDLESS, you should not be even thinking about sex at your point in life. You have so many far more important things to worry about. Quite simply, if your boyfriend even asks for sex, you probably would be best off to dump him on the spot, because of the above reasons. Something is wrong.

You won't like this answer, but it is the best one anyone could give you: Talk to a parental unit. This could be a mother or father, or if you are being raised by someone not your mother or father, whoever is taking on the responsibility of parentage. It may not seem like they have your best interests at heart sometimes, but they probably do. I know that it wasn't until I was in or completed college that I began to realize all the times my parents were trying to be there for me and I didn't understand it at that time.

But do not let this person talk you into sex. Don't even put yourself into that position. Girls have been forced and tricked - against their will - into sex before when they were confused because they allowed themselves to be in a dangerous position. This is NOT to say it was their fault - it was not - but there's no reason to even be in that position at all, is there?

I have written it before, I will write it again: You have plenty of time. There is and should be no rush into sexual activities. Wait for marriage or don't, I'm not arguing that one way or the other. I AM telling you that unless you are absolutely, 100% sure that it is the right thing at the right time, don't do it. Don't let someone else force or convince you either. It's your body, your choice, and your life. Live it the way you know is right.

Best of luck in the future!
(See other answers on your other questions.)

Answer 2

if you are confused and/or have mixed feelings, then dont take your time to step back.

if you arent ready for it, meaning no clear mind or thinking to go through it, then you shouldnt...you must follow your heart.

do not let your BF push you into anything you arent ready for, he may give you the time to dwell on it or he may react with a childish sex-starved attitude of "give me sex or we are over"

most times women give in because they dont wish to lose their BF...if your BF cant understand your reluctance, then he isnt respecting you as his GF or a person.

Answer 3

first how old are you if you are early midteens no way there is plenty of time for that talk to friends clergy etc someone you can trust good luck to you

Answer 4

if u r not ready for sex than don't do it. wait til ur ready or married.