I was with my ex for 5 years, he used to hit me regularly and put me down so i would be insecure with myself. Four yyear after the abuse started i'v managed the courage to get out of the relationship and found a little more confidence in myself. I know that I am pretty with a great figure, so why is it that I cant find a man? I guess im shy and i just cant chat to most guys - what should I do? how an i meet a nice guy? Im told im funny, pretty and caring with brains- what more do guys want?
2007-02-26 10:30:27 · 6 answers · asked by Malvi_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and i forgot to mention while I was with my ex he made sure I had no contact with my friends. Now iv broken up the ones that really cared are still thereforme but they dont go out to clubs or bars, they are all settled with partners. I cant go out alone to bars so where am i gonna meet someone from leaving my house and takin a three minute drive to work?
2007-02-26 10:50:09 · update #1
You don't have to search, a man who is worthy of you will come along eventually. And if he's the right guy you will never have to worry is he going to call, does he care about me or any of that. Because his actions and words will let you know.
2007-02-26 10:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply pick the wrong guys. And you will keep doing so unless you take control. Think of what you look for in a guy(and not the nice guy lie to yourself). Make a list of everything about any boy Friend you've had and look for things that match. You should see a pattern.
You could also try going out with a guy that you would 'never' think of going out with. One that is a bit fat, or has a steady job or does not ride a motorcycle.
2007-02-26 18:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat....well, not with the abusive relationship but with the "single and shy" part. Go out and do things and you will find someone who likes to do the same things as you do. Just don't look for a relationship - let it happen naturally. It will get better....it has to. You will find someone who deserves you and you will be so happy that you didn't become desperate!!
2007-02-26 18:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by tinktink20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that, your man will come soon, unless you make the first move, sounds like you're liking yourself more, and the more you do, the more it will show in your demeanor and body language, soon enough, other people will pick up on that and just see what happens.
2007-02-26 18:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are out there looking for a lovely lady like yourself ---- dont look too hard and someone will find you ---- usually when you least expect it --- best wishes
2007-02-26 18:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, im here. but i am already have a girlfriend
2007-02-26 18:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by SwordDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋