Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are having sex, he will but his hands around my neck and make it hard for me to breathe, and sometimes he will slap or hit me. He has never been physically violent towards me except for these times, and is usually very sweet and loving to me. I'm not sure what I should do about this [if anything] I have never said anything about it. Should I be worried?
2007-02-26 10:28:00 · 11 answers · asked by Gabrielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about it. If you don't like it, tell him. If he doesn't stop doing it after that, you need to leave him.
2007-02-26 10:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you, you need to say something. there's a good chance it's nothing to worry about, it's just a male domineering action to be aggressive in bed, but it could very well be more than that. what you might caution him of though is that real life isn't like porn you see on the internet. girls have feelings, and if it's showing up in sex in his actions like it does in porn, then he might continue to go down a path of degrading and abusing women. because it is obviously distressing you, tell him it isn't something you enjoy and the "rape fantasy" that he's living out needs to be stopped. if you don't mind it every once in awhile and he gets off on it, let him know. tell him "ok, you can dominate me now... but tomorrow, i'm puttin the cuffs on you and stompin you with my high heels"... just make sure you're on the same page when you're having sex otherwise it'll be very uncomfortable and could potentially develop into worse habits or habitual abuse even.
2007-02-26 10:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by jrmay77cr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him in a quiet setting, outside of the bedroom that you aren't comfortable with the rough sex. Don't be confrontational. Just tell him nicely that you aren't comfortable with it. But if he does it again after telling him then break it off with him right away.
2007-02-26 10:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY worried...it can (& usually does) get worse from now on out. I've been there and it's not a place I want to visit again. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-02-26 10:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by whatever2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has sadistic fetishes....be careful.
You don't say if you like it or not. I had this room mate who used to love to have guys slap her and choke her and spank her with belts, etc. ....OMG I felt like calling the police whenever she had a guy over.
You need a "safe word" and you need to make sure he knows to stop when you use this word.....read up on BDSM and safe words.
2007-02-26 10:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DRRR, say something about it. He has probably had girlfriends in the past that have liked it, or he is taken edicite from pornos, and yes they do this a LOT in porno. If your to afraid to say anything, don't complain.
If you complain and he doesn't stop either put up with it, or leave.
2007-02-26 10:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Nobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very concerned about this abusive behavior. I would have a talk with him and see if he will consider help to curb this thing you call "roughness", which is really physical abuse.
2007-02-26 10:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a bully and needs to control you. Run away unless you are an inflatable doll or a punching bag.
2007-02-26 11:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by rick m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During sex, he's treating you like a sexual object instead of making love to you. Tell him how you feel.
2007-02-26 10:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by spackler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you should stand up to him and tell him that he is being a little to rough on you! stand your ground!
2007-02-26 10:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋