My sister always uses my parents to put me down and brain washes them against me, now she has crossed limits?

Question

She hates me and makes no secret of it, simply jealous of my life and my achievements....that's what everyone tells me and I feel it too.
Now she has sponsored my parents to come to Australia from India and told them strictly not to visit me and they all decided not to even tell me that they are here. But I found out and God it hurts, what kind of parents would be willing to be pawns in a hate game played by a jealous women. I was told by my sister-in-law that they had decided, when in India not to offend their sponsoring daughter and won't visit me. My sister is a cheap mean ***** what my parents? Are they mentally impotent? God it hurts to have such parents.

Answer 1

Your pain is obvious and you have my sympathy. Morally, your parents should not make a difference between their children. There is no excuse for it. Still, try to see the big picture. What were the conditions for your parents like in India? Perhaps they were very desperate to get out. One cannot bite the hand that feeds them. If not seeing you was a condition that your sister insisted upon to sponsor them can you see their dilemma?
Send a letter to your parents anyway. Write several versions and work through your hurt and anger until you can share with them your true emotion (abandonment) and make it clear that this hurts you without being hurtful yourself.
Continue to honor your parents that your days may be long in the land that God gave you and so it will be well with you. (This is the only one of the 10 commandments that comes with a promise.) Let your parents know that you still want them in your life and when they can see their way clear to visit you that you will welcome them into your home.
This is taking the high road. God will bless you for it and reward your sister according to her works as well. Pray for peace.

Answer 2

My sister has never been this way, but my adoptive brother has. I was adopted by my Aunt, and my brother was very jelous of that. I don't even really call him brother. He would be in town and I would have to stay away from her house because he did not like me.

If I ran into him in a store, he would have her call me and ask me to stay away from the store. It does hurt and it hurts bad, but they only thing you can do is confront your parents and your sister. If they deny it or try to make light of it, their is not much that you can do. Some families fight and this is hard to deal with.

I am sorry that this happened to you. I wish I could make it better.

Answer 3

i know exactly know how you feel. before my mom died seven years ago, things were the same way with my baby sister but my mom was like when i was around she would say things about my sister and when i wasnt around and she was mom would say things about me. now that my mom has died my sister has said some awful things about me and calls ppl and says hurtful things and i know she is jealous of me and my acheivements and all just like you say thats what everyone tells me....i talked to her on the phone a while ago right before thanksgiving and confronted her on her behavior and she proceeded to tell me what a loser i was and she would have everyone against me before she took her last breath, and proceeded to call me really bad names. the thing is i really think they have some type of mental problem when it comes to their own life and are so insecure about themselves that they feel like they have to belittle everyone they come into contact with. I bet she eats people up to their face and talks about them behind their backs? those kind of people are just hurting themselves cause "what goes around comes around" and if that dont work you can always turn the tables on her confront them all one by one if you have to...just try to find out what she has said about you and you are the one who can put her in her own place so do some of your own detective work against her cause no matter what she will always hate you or have something against you as a person cause she has no life.....i see alot of these kind of ppl i have a family plum full of them good luck and God Bless ya

Answer 4

Forgive them for their stupidity. There will come a time when they want to see you and you may not be able to or want to see them. Trust me what goes around comes around. Its not worth crying for parents who would differentiate between their children.