I dont understand very well,i am from latin america my boyfriend and I just broke up after 2 years, beacuse he got scared. We never had sex mostly because of him (he is a virgin), he is an intelectual guy living with his parents and afraid of getting married, or buying a house or any commintment, he is so swet, but probably too sensitive, is that normal in the US or is a strange behaviour?
2007-02-26 10:26:27 · 17 answers · asked by Nata 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is NOT the norm here, He's a loser and WIERD!
2007-03-06 06:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. In the US, you generally leave home at 18 (I didn't bother waiting that long). However, some people do hang around with Mom and Dad a bit longer, especially if they're college students. But the minute they get that diploma, they're on their own. If not, it's a sign of weirdness. It also means that they've got clinging, overprotective parents who don't have the nerve to kick their deadbeat kids out of the house. What you've got here is a classic "Peter Pan" case, the type of "man" who refuses to grow up. He'll be a little boy forever, or at least as long as he's permitted to get away with it. Try dating a grown-up, instead.
2007-02-26 18:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal for a man to be afraid of getting married or buying house. I would only be afraid of such a thing if I was with a woman that I wasn't sure I truly loved.
He might have a fear of committments or is claustrophobic, but most American guys want to marry and settle down with the woman they love. Especially latin women because they are so cute!
2007-02-26 18:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That, my dear, is anything BUT normal.
He's one of those who have 'failed to launch' or 'leave the nest'. I'm willing to bet he's scared of any commitment. You made the best choice by dumping him. If a guy is living with his parents at the age of 26, it's more than a personality quirk. He's just odd. He'll probably never move out of his parents house until he gets married, and even then you'll have to live near your in-laws. It's usual that you move out of your own home when you go to college and never really do back to living in their house.
We're one odd culture. But that's above the normal oddities.
2007-02-26 18:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by ladyselenity0 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunetely it is very common nowadays for a 26 year old to live with their parents. It's just too expensive to pay rent or a mortgage for most people right out of college. The rest of what u described is not normal at all. Dump HER sorry butt.
2007-02-26 18:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are insecure about commitment. How ever, living with his parents could be a mojor impairment for your relationship. This is some what common behavior that is getting more and more common every year in America.
2007-02-26 18:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Verry Berry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know, the U.S. Is now becoming a country full of slackers as I see it, Kids don't want to get a job, they don't want to volenteer, they don't want to take care of themselves etc. I've been trying to live on my own since I was fourteen, I finally moved out at sixteen, which is supposedly illegal, but I did it and here I am eighteen, and ready to have a baby in a nice two bedroom apartment, livin it up as best I can.
2007-02-26 18:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on alot of things. Does his mother still control his life? Is he really religious? Does he live in California, where it is expensive for 20-somethings to move out on their own?
Usually 26 years old is PLENTY of time to transition into being a "grown up". He's not ready to grow up...and you seem to want someone who is.
Over all, you probably deserve better...he doesn't sound like much of a man.
2007-02-26 18:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by mzsunrize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the US it people usually move put of their parents house during and after college but some people stay longer. It's not "normal" to live in your parent's house at age 26 but it's not unusual either...plenty of people do it
2007-02-26 18:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by problem_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this day, it's a lot more common.
as for latin america, most don't leave the house until they're married or in some cases their new spouse lives with them and their parents.
2007-02-26 18:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with still living with their parents. i mean its a hard step to move out of the home you grew up in and to move away from the people that raised you. accept someone for who he is.. its not like he can do anything about the fact that he still lives with his parents. i'm sure he's trying to figure it out and find a nice place. homes are expensive now
2007-02-26 18:30:10 · answer #11 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋