A male coworker of mine is very resentful of me because I get along very well with a girl at work that he likes alot. I happen to like her alot but don't think she likes me like that but I'm okay with this. The problem is when she laughs at my jokes (she does this alot), or compliments me, or touches me on the arm, he will make a comment about it and be very negative towards us for the rest of the day. She brought brownies in for my birthday and he seemed upset by this. We have a similiar sense of humor and we find the same things funny, and he always makes comments about how stupid we are for finding certain things funny. He thinks she likes me alot, and other coworkers think we are hooking up, but this isn't happening. What do I do? How do I handle this guy?
2007-02-26 09:50:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
set him up with a date with her.....
2007-02-26 09:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should not worry much about what other think (If you are not doing something wrong), but if you are so concern about it, be a grown up, and have a mature conversation with the other guy, explain to him that there is nothing going on between the two of you, but if he really wants to get to this girl, he has to work on it, not just make faces and ugly comments, this actully pushis another individual away(too much negativity),. You should keep being yourself, it seems like the girl enjoys your companionship, and as long as this keeps going well, who know she might end up liking you the way you would like for her to like you. But do not misunderstand things either, she my enjoy your friendship, and if you try to push too hard, you might end up losing her even as a friend, just be you, and take things slow, there is no reason to rush things... I was told this once... How can someone say that life is too short, if there is nothing else longer that we do.
2007-02-26 10:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by this is me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can DO NOT discuss anything that has to do with that girl to your male coworker. When he does bring up observations, act like you are unaffected by what she does and downplay it as much as possible. Maybe then he will shut up about it. But if he doesn't change the subject or be honest and tell him its none of his damn business. As far the girl is concerned, seems like she is at least interested in you on a friend level, as her out to lunch or coffee ;)
2007-02-26 09:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by *_Yve_* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem stupid but watch employee of the month.... a guy A likes a girl and guy B likes the same girl. They battle each other for the girl and they both think she doesnt like them...but in the end she chose guy B b/c he was funny, sweet and wasnt trying to impress her....and dont stop talking to her and just ignore the ...if he senses that his comments bother u then he will continue to do it...just shrug him off and she will follow the guy that interest her most
hope i helped =]
2007-02-26 09:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your coworker sounds very JEALOUS, and unfortunately you have to deal with these at times.
Don't make yourself miserable and stop talking to her just because he gets mad. If he likes her, he needs to make it know to her, it is not your fault if he doesn't have the chemistry with her. And if you back off, that doesn't guarantee that someone else won't start talking to her and getting her attention as well.
He has the problem and will get over eventually.
Have Fun...
2007-02-26 09:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where sexual harrasment in the workplace gets hairy. Technically, you two should keep the flirting out of the workplace. Spend sometime away from work if you like eachother's company (it sounds like you should anyway, she does like you dude). If your sexual tension is making the workplace atmosphere uncomfortable for others, that's a form of sexual harrassment, legally. On the other hand, it doesn't sound like you actually have anything to do with this guys attitude. It sounds more like it's springing from his resentment of her rejecting him. This is also a form of sexual harrassment in the workplace, and needs to be dealt with, because it's more about his attitude towards her than it is about his attitude towards the two of you. Talk to your supervisor, and tell him/her about this situation before it gets out of hand.
2007-02-26 10:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep being her friend! obviously you guys have alot of fun together. dont let what this guy or other people think stop you from having fun. and the other guy, don't rub it in his face when the girl laughs at your jokes and stuff. just try to ignore his negative attitude and don't let it ruin your fun. maybe try to include him at times while you're talking with this girl.
2007-02-26 09:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by sara r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore the guy for the rest of your life and then hook up with the girl after hanging out with her for a while
2007-02-26 09:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by baconbobdude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his problem is? If you two are getting along well and she likes you, he needs to get over it. If she's not interested in him...then what's the deal. Just try not to anger him by flirting in front of him.
2007-02-26 09:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if a gurl is lauthing at ur jokes she loves u and thats couse u make her smile gurls like guys who make them smile and shows them a good time and u got 2 stand up 2 dis guy & tell him that u had enouth if u he wont listen thats his problem .
2007-02-26 09:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that guy is just being a hater, just know that if she does all this stuff + the kino on your arm, check her body language, she's probably into you, unless you guys were GREAT friends from before, may the best man win.
2007-02-26 09:57:21 · answer #11 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋