a plane ticket, hotel room, and all other expenses to a Spring Break trip to CanCun. The plane ticket is not refundable so I feel bad breaking it off right after he spent hundreds on me. I also don't want to go on the trip and then break it off, because it would look like I was just using him. When should I end our relationship--before or after the trip? (which is March 13-16th by the way)
2007-02-26 09:48:51 · 22 answers · asked by goldengirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to break it off, do it now.
Don't string him along.
If you break it off now, do you actually think he will have trouble finding someone (guy or girl) that will turn down a free trip to Cancun????? The arragements won't go to waste.
If you go on that trip, when your not into him, and break it off afterward, it will be more that "looking" like you used him.
Cmon girl, you know that, I shouldn't have to tell you.
Break it off, and he and a buddy can go to Cancun and have fun.
If you go, and don't want to be with him, how do you think he or you will have any fun???
It will be a big waste of money for him, and a big waste of time for you.
I don't mean to sound harsh, I just want you to be honest with yourself.
2007-02-26 09:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If there are doubts and issues which make you unhappy being in that relationship, then end it before it makes you more miserable from that obligation of the trip. What makes the relationship bad for you? If the ulterior motive about this trip is for HIM to have some fun with what's typical of Cancun during spring break, then you two need to talk it out before hand. If you did not bring it up or gave him the ideas of Cancun during spring break...then why did he want to take you there without talking it over? What is making you unhappy to bring the topic of a break up? Can it be resolved? Could you two change it enough to make you happy again? Will he need to make drastic changes to please you enough to keep the relationship going? Is it just him or do you feel you are not doing your part as well? Without a good background, we can't give a definitive answer. But do not go and then be obligated and become miserable with being forced to stay in the relationship longer than you need/should be.
Good luck...
2007-02-26 17:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by imgizmo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him before the trip. Maybe he can go with a buddy and change the room around to two beds and stuff. But letting him take you on a trip when you know you want to end it is wrong.
If he can't change the ticket, pay him back. If it's going to take a while, set up a payment plan to do so or get a loan from your parents or some one.
2007-02-26 17:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is probably WHY he bought you the ticket!
End it without guilt, and stay at home.
It was his choice to buy the ticket, and as soon as you allow your moral compass to be tossed aside because of money, you do both parties a disservice.
Like the other answers say, he'll find a way to get over it on Spring Break in Cancun, no doubt!
2007-02-26 17:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although this is a tough one and you do know for sure you want to end the relationship, you need to just be honest with him. Talk to him privately, and inform him how you've been struggling with this on what to do and you simply feel although it's going to hurt him, to tell him the truth. Be honest but also add some extra sensitivity when telling him how you feel. Tell him that if he would like to go as "friends" you would consider it but you do not want him to feel as if you were using him. When it comes to men, you might even want to consider putting this down on paper as a lot of men half the time, don't even let you get it all out without flipping out first. Honesty really is the best policy, tell him asap how you feel! You'll feel better about it too, no matter how much he'll hurt.
2007-02-26 17:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The ticket might be non-refundable but that doesn't mean it can't be exchanged or used towards another trip. Don't sell your integrity for a few hundred bucks. Break it off now, so he can find another travel companion.
2007-02-26 17:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
End it today. He can always find someone else to take with him. Plus the trip to cancun will do him good to get over you.
2007-02-26 17:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a "friend" of Blues Lovin' Daddy. If this were my situation, I would have to consider the consequences of telling him now. Could he handle the trip with you just being friends? Could you pay for your half? Would you still want to go? If you really want to go to Mexico, offer to pay your expenses and go as friends. But tell him NOW. Maybe he can still take someone else. Always listen to your heart. Don't jerk him around.
2007-02-26 18:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Blues Lovin' Daddy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cannot accept a plane ticket, hotel room and all the other expenses if you plan on breaking up with the guy; that is wrong and bad karma......you don't want bad karma....
2007-02-26 17:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do it before inspite of his generous gift.
As you said you don't want to use him.
Even if the plane ticket is non-refundable it can be transferred to someone elses name for a fee. He has that option. Do not feel guilty.
2007-02-26 17:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋