How do I go on?

Question

My boyfriend of 6 months told me he cheated on me and that he couldn't trust himself to keep our relationship going. He later said he was not happy. The major problem is we have a baby coming in August and I don't know what to do. How do I go on, I feel like my life is ending

Answer 1

Im so sorry you are going thru this hunny, all I can say is that you are not the first and certainly will not be the last. I know its a painful situation to be in, but it happened to me, and I managed to raise my now 16 year old daughter on my own along with the help of My Dear Mom!!! (I miss you mami!) But listen, nothing in life lasts forever, you have a baby coming and you need to focus all your energy on making that baby your 1st and foremost priority! Time heals all wounds and maybe you two need to be apart from eachother. Perhaps with a little away time he can come to a conclusion if whether or not he is to be part of your family... in the meantime keep yourself busy and occupy your mind with books on parenting and skill to help out for you and your baby!!! It will help speed the healing process!!! If you want to chat email me and I will lend an ear and more advice!!! I know your are in a terrible situation, but GOD WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS!!! GOD BLESS U !!!!! GOOD LUCK!!! I WISH YOU THE BEST IN ALL SINCERITY!!!!

Answer 2

Your life is NOT ending. Shut this loser out of your life and concentrate on this new innocent bundle of life. Once the child is born, go to court get full custody and a child support order. This happened to me a long time ago (29 years) and grew me up quick. I thought it was the end of the world, but it was just a new beginning. Good luck to you and take good care of the child, the right guy will come along and you won't have to deal with a cheater again. I'm sure you've learned a valuable lesson and won't want your child exposed to that.

Answer 3

It hurts. A LOT!!!!

You need to think about if you can trust him again. My man cheated on me after a few months and we stayed together. The trust was gone for such a long time. I didnt like him doing anythign without me for months. The fact is, I learnt to trust him again, but it always lingers in your mind. Who is he with? Where is he? Is he cheating again? It will be hard to forgive him and forget, but its all about how you will feel.

I broke up with my man after 5 yrs and he told me that things hadent been right between us since he cheated. It hurts that he feels that we werent good togetehr for an extra 4 1/2 yrs.

Its all about you. You have a baby comming and you dont need to be stressing about something like this. You need to make up your mind and talk to him about it some more. If he isnt happy, show him the door. It will be really hard and it will hurt for a long time, but its better for you and your baby to be in a happy place, not one filled with distrust and lying etc etc.

If you cant sort out your head, I suggest a shrink.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Wow, pregnant after six months? Tough luck girl. Dump him and take this as a very tough life lesson. You definietly don't want to marry or stay with this guy. It will make your life more hell.

But you have to stay positive for yourself and your baby. You don't want to have a miscarriage or premature birth by stressing out over some loser. If someone's not happy, you can't change their mind. Get a good lawyer and make sure he pays child support.

Think more and be more careful next time you have sex with someone you've only been dating for a little while.

Answer 5

First off, I'm sure you want the baby, so focus on that. You
and your unborn child are the most important thing right now.
Your child needs YOU!!!
When I have overwhelming problems, I try to separate them.
Deal with the most important first. Then the others as I can handle them. It keeps you sane. You and your baby first,
then the rest, later. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

you shouldn't have gotten pregnant after 6 months with a guy.. but anyways.. do whats best for you.. the guy is doing whats best for him.. if you think the best thing is to try to get back together with him when he cheats on you when he has his own kid on the way then you might need to rethink the situation.. try to find someone that will love you and bring out the best in you.. truthfully only you know what you need to do.. use your mind and heart and you'll make the right decision for yourself.

good luck

Answer 7

First don't stress yourself out, that could be bad for the baby. Put him on child support, or see if he'll be in the baby's life. Many people have raised kids on there own, so your not alone, you just have to be strong.

Answer 8

Wow. It sounds like he wasn't prepared to have a baby. He got scared and cheated on you with another woman because he couldn't face the responsibility of being a father. Wow. If he doesn't want to be with you, don't force him to stay, let him go. Just make sure he pays the child support.

Answer 9

Forget him you don't need him anyways an guy that runs off on a girl when she's pregnant with his baby isn't worth it. HE'S A LOSER. You can do better. Just pick your self up and move on. Good luck! I wish you the best!

Answer 10

He's full of CRAP!!! Sorry to tell you but he's a dawg and not ready for impending fatherhood, so he bailed! He may have cheated but he took the easy way out. I am so sorry to hear but you are much better off, and so is your child, without him in your life. It will be hard, but life is not supposed to be easy.