I have been dating a guy that I really care for awhile(not very long, about a month or so ) and my family thinks it is wrong of me to be seeing a "married man" . I was NOT the cause of his marriage breaking up, I met him afterwards, I don't see the harm in dating him...I would like some opnions, Should we have waited till the ink was dry on the divorce papers? Or does it matter? My family thinks it is not good, because he could change his mind and go back to his wife , but isn't there a risk in any relationship, in the fact that it could end, because someone wants out, to be with another?
2007-02-26 09:43:36 · 4 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as they are getting a divorce and not just temporarily seperated, it's fine.
The main thing you have to worry about is whether the guy has moved on emotionally from the experience of a failed marriage.
You could just be the girl he dates while he's figuring out what he wants from life and who he is,now that he's (soon to be) not a married man.
2007-02-26 09:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until the divorce is finalized, he is still married. He has a wife, even if they are not living together. You should tell him that when (and if) his divorce is finalized, you would love to see him again, but not before.
I don't see it as a problem because maybe he will return to his wife and leave you out in the cold, I think it is a problem because the marriage commitment is to be in an exclusive relationship until the marriage is over. By dating you while he is still married, I think he is showing that he cannot keep that kind of commitment.
2007-02-26 09:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family is totally right.
He's still married... just because they're fighting at the moment doesn't mean they're not still married.
You need to WAIT until the divorce is final. That way he can decide what to do and he's not jumbling you up in all the mess.
And if he DOES start getting along with his wife, there you are... heartbroken.
2007-02-26 09:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlee you don't mind being his rebound, go ahead and date him.
2007-02-26 09:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋