Gossiping mother in law?

Question

I am sick of my mother in laws gossip, she talks about me to my sister in law, my sister in law to me, even her sons are fair game, she tells me about people I dont even know.(she seems to think she is doing me a favour by telling me all this stuff) some of it s quite nasty (saying my sister in law only married her son to get immigrancy and that I was cheating on my husband which isnt true) I dont think this behaviour is necessary, how do I tell her that I dont want to hear it without offending her

Answer 1

hun the best u can do (listen i kno)lol...just talk to her. when u 2are alone..or with ur hubby near u to support u, tell her how u feel and how hurt u r by the things u kno that shes bn sayin about u, better do that soon than wait and wait ultil one day u get fd up with all that and get into an ugly argument.

Answer 2

There is really no easy way to tell her. You could tell her look I know you mean well, but this is not a good subject to be on. Also try changing the subject. The only other thing you can do is tell her straight out that you do not appriciate her talking about you are your sister in law the way she talks about her or the men for the for that matter.

What ever you do, it is going to make her mad, you just have to decide how you are going to do it. Gossip is a bad thing and you should nip it in the bud, just know that it is going to hurt.

Answer 3

The best thing to do is ask your husband to talk to her about this behaviour, all he needs to say is that knowing too much about your sil and other people's lives is doing no good for you, and maybe he could address the issue about her saying disrescpectful things about you, just let your husband know that you do not want to cause any problems but that just her doing this is causing problems, who knows when she tells the wrong person and they actually come out and tell you things tinking its true? its not right and it is very disrespectful, the best thing he could say is these are our wives, what happens in our relationship doesnt have anything to do with you, and you dshouldnt have anything to do with our relationship, if your husband refuses to stand up for you, then the best option you should take is to just not say anything, because if you do it will come back to you, ESPECIALLY if it has anything to do with her gossiping, when she starts talking just walk away for act like youre busy, dont spend as much time as you do with her, it will lead to trouble, and dont share important personal information with her. Good luck and remember to be patient.

Answer 4

See as little of her as possible.
Be friendly when you do see her, but if she starts to gossip, either change the subject or conveniently have something else to do that takes you out of the situation.
Or if you have to sit and listen, "zone out", don't respond one way or the other, act as if you couldn't care less. Maybe she will get the hint and go bother someone else.
As for what she is saying about you, I would definitely have a talk with her on the subject, preferably take a neutral party with you to be witness that you haven't said anything harmful to your mother-in-law, and to witness if she says anything harmful about you.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

the next time she is gossiping paitently listen then question her morals like when she says that your sister in law married her other son for citizenship, say to her "why would u say somthing like that?? im sure she loves him and isnt it more impotant for them to love each other?? dont u want your son 2 b happy?? always end it with an open end question, to make her think of her statements, as far as her talking about you say to her maribel told me that u said im cheating on my husband, have maribel on the phone when u confront her, see what she does let her know u r not cheating and that its these things that bring stife to a marriage cut the snakes head off befor it leaps out of the grass

Answer 6

I USED to have a good relationship with my in laws, but my hubby's mom is such a wacko. She says things without a cause & in front of a crowd. I finally stopped biting my tongue and snapped, ever since, she wont talk to me and vice versa. But remember this: Hardest thing in life is to keep the bridges WORTH keeping and burn the ones that are not worth keeping.
I feel much better since she wont talk to me, becuz her gossiping was so bad and negative that it would spoil my day

Answer 7

My mother is a big gossiper and I finally had to tell her that if she wanted to talk to me in real conversation I was all for it but I was no longer her ear to gossip in. She doesn't call me to talk at all anymore which is fine with me. It also showed me all she wanted to do was gossip as she has nothing meaningful to share with me otherwise she would call me.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Why are you so susceptible to think that it is your FMIL who's spreading the gossip at an analogous time as your spectacular chum has already counseled you that it is not your FMIL besides the incontrovertible fact that the neighbor who has suggested this? It sounds to me such as you're anticipating a intent to unlike her. i think you will could desire to talk to your FMIL and tell her what you heard. She calls for to comprehend what your neighbor is asserting, and you'll be able to desire to deal with this like an individual. in case you progression out and "run away" from this predicament now, you're ecosystem a precedent for all long term era conflicts with this female. and he or she is unlikely away. you're marrying her son, so she would be ready to be there for see you later as she is alive. the two one in each of you'll be able to desire to be waiting to get alongside. i could desire to recommend which you cope with this to her as while you're accusing the neighbor, no longer her, besides the incontrovertible fact that tell her what you heard and ask if any of what the neighbor is asserting is suitable. If she unquestionably thinks you're no longer to any extent further a nicely housekeeper and he or she or he's in contact approximately her son's well-being, then i think you will could desire to talk to her and ask her why she feels this way. in case you do no longer cope with this now, it is going to hardship you for the entertainment of your existence.

Answer 9

Tell her she should hear what people are saying about her! Let her know she is not immune to other's gossip.

Answer 10

stay away from her