My bf and i have been dating for a month and a half. In the last 2 weeks he has gotten REALLY busy with work and I am starting to feel neglected. I saw him once last tuesday, and I was with him and his buddies and my girlfriend on the weekend, but never alone with him. I just think that we should spend more time together, especially alone, instead of always with friends.ive been alone with him 3 times since we met. I am trying to be patient, but it's REALLY starting to bug me.I want to know if i should try to talk to him about it and if i should, what should i say so that i dont sound like im nagging????I really want this to work, but how r we supposed to get closer and get to know each other better if we never spend tiome alone?BTW im 20, hes 24
2007-02-26 09:37:33 · 13 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should wait it out a bit longer...
2007-02-26 09:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an easy approach that will not make it sound like you are nagging. All you have to do is respectfully tell your significant other how the situation makes you feel. If you begin the conversation that way, you should be able to open the lines of communication without sounding condesending, accusatory, or like you are whining or nagging.
Remember that relationships are hard work. The most important thing is communication. The second most important thing is compromise. With him having other obligations, he may also feel frustrated and feel a longing for more alone time with you.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Make the most of what time you can spend together and keep things out in the open and I am certain everything will work out in the end.
2007-02-26 17:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by on1y0ne_y2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something bothers you in your relationship, you need to tell him. Don't wait because things between you and him won't change or can even get worse. Communication and understanding is the key. What you should tell him is exactly what you feel about this. If he doesn't understand you, I say to forget him because a guy that truly loves you would do anything to make things work. These sentences " I really want this to work, but how r we supposed to get closer and get to know each other better if we never spend tiome alone" that you wrote are the things you should tell him.
2007-02-26 17:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by redstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space. Do things without him and tell him how much fun you are having with so and so and make it seem like you are independant and don't need him. Then he will come seeking out your attention. He sounds a bit selfish, but if you love him then you will find creative and indirect ways to get him to come to you. Get your bait out and start fishing because once you catch him...you got him.
2007-02-26 17:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like he's just not that into you. After 6 weeks of dating, he'll either want to see you more if he's into you, or see you less if he's not.
It might be time to realize that he's probably not the guy for you.
2007-02-26 17:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should organise something for the two of you to do
like a picnic or something & see what he says you know just throw some suggestions out for things that you can do together he'll get the hint sooner or later.
good luck!:)
2007-02-26 17:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mazzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should call him one day when he`s not busy and if he is schedule a another day and if he`s not go to a park or a movie or take a walk with him just the two of you and take his cellphone away from him so he won`t be called by any of his friends
2007-02-26 17:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20 haa well maybe you need someone that wants to spend time with you.This guy seems not to. He leading you on for some reason.
2007-02-26 17:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try being honest. And communication is soooo important! If you have a hard time telling him how you feel, are you sure you should be with him??
2007-02-26 17:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey try this, ask him if he wants to do somthing with you? when you talk to him on the phone and/or text him tell him that you just want it to be you and him.....he should just say ok unless he is the player type....if he likes you he will find the time just to be with you.....this is inportant cause if not you may want to just ask him why.....you may be shakey when you ask, be blunt and direct, through him off guard...then you will get the truth, k....
2007-02-26 17:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you sould tell him you want some alone time have a romantic evening with him and the rest is up to you
2007-02-26 17:43:38 · answer #11 · answered by Saber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋