I broke up with my boyf of 19 months. He is 31 and I am 23. I really love him but dont believe he is the one for me anymore. He listens, he is very family orientated, he cooks, he cleans and adores the ground i walk on but he was not ambitious enough for me. and he does not drive.
I know these are superficial things but my parents struggled financially and our house got repossessed too since then i have been really independent (buying a house with my friend at 22 years of old) and cannot feel comfortable with an unsecure future.
This guy wanted to marry me and have kids (He doesnt have any)
but even as a fulltime nursing student and working partime i earned more than him. Also in the last month of the relationship i lost my sex drive.
Have i been too hasty breaking up with him? (we have broken up 3 times before)
(and no i wont forward his details to anyone else- its a bit too soon)
2007-02-26 09:26:36 · 11 answers · asked by Scarlett write 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say that if you have broken up three times before, there is an underyling reason for this. He sounds adorable but, clearly, you have concerns with his ambitions. I too grew up in poverty and it was very important to me that I have a partner who is ambitious - and wants to achieve. There is nothing wrong with this. You may be feeling a little bit low at the moment and doubting your decision - be strong, it isn't fair on him to keep changing your mind. If you feel he is not the one for you, move on and let him find someone else - particuarly if he wants to settle down and have a family etc. If you want to be with him, you have to accept him 100% for who he is - you can't change people.
2007-02-26 09:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bexs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand people that break up and get back together and so on and so on and so on.
That being said.....You know what the answer is. What does your gut tell you? You need to give you self permission to accept your own answer.
You can love someone and he can still be toxic to your life. It really depends on what you want out of YOUR life. Is this the way you want to live your life???????
The lose of sex drive means that you truly aren't mentally attracted to him anymore. This stems from your feelings of disappointment in him, the fact that you feel you have to be responsible for him, you are starting to resent him because he is not truly the right person for you. Resentment usually turns into hate and mistrust.
Ending things for good would be my choice. But you need to do what is best for you. If you feel this is the way you want to live forever..then good luck.
2007-02-26 09:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm stepping into the path of the comparable ingredient, 35 years is an prolonged time to be with the comparable individual. this is complicated, so now I in simple terms pray approximately it and leave it in Gods great arms. Prayer continuously works once you're a believer. Love and God Bless
2016-10-02 01:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
well in my experience it is very easy to give up on things, but if your love for him was strong enough, the fact he doesn't drive, or earn more than you wouldn't matter.
so he isn't the one for you
they say behind every good man is a good woman... maybe the things that are so important to you would have one day been as important to him. but i guess you will never know!
2007-02-26 09:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by rachealuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to worry about your future. I just got out of the same situation. I think it's better to have someone your equal. Find someone who can help make life easier, not hold you back.
2007-02-26 09:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i guess so. You really have to put a lot of faith into a relationship and it will succeed. Just put faith into a relationship and you should be able to get pass the problems in your relationship.
2007-02-26 09:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds lovely, but if you are not happy why stay? .. Just because he does all the things we think we may want. If the sparks not there, there's no point in going backwards.
2007-02-26 09:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Hippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same about my man - he is perfect but - not necessarily perfect for me. I think you've done the right thing and it was very brave.
2007-02-27 00:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by typolisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not your Mr Right...keep looking. You should never settle!
2007-02-26 09:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not too impatient, he deserved to be dumped.
2007-02-26 09:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋