I had sex wit my guy best friend when i was over at his house while my boy friend was away on business. I don't want my bf to know but i feel that i should tell him. Also, i dont want my guy friend to think that it was anything special even though i think that there was a connection between us! i am soooo confused and need HELP plz!!!!
2007-02-26 09:21:31 · 20 answers · asked by sweetie24688 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him it was a mistake and please let it be between the 2 of you and ask him to please never use it aganst you or vise versa it will smash anything you have with your bf and if it was a mistake well everyone is allowed one so try to put it behind you and ask the other guy to do the same but don't let him hang it over your head to get more of the same from you and if it does bother you so much that you must tell, do it gently but be prepaired for the worst,if you tell and he see's it as a mistake then he is a good guy and stick by him and never mess up again cause he's a catch.
2007-02-26 09:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by mike g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You messed up> First this guy being your best friend most likely does think something special is going on between you now. It was wrong of him to mess with you knowing you had a boyfriend. Also wrong of you to mess with him while your boyfriend was gone.You should talk to them both seperately. Do you want an honest relationship or not? How would you feel if your boyfriend cheated on you? The guilt will get you one way or another so you might as well come clean and tell the truth.
2007-02-26 09:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by JAMIE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just hate it when that happens!!!
Firstly there is nothing accidental about having sex with another person, you willfully commited this act.
Secondly, you have said this was nothing special to you, so why did you do it?
Lastly you must tell this person you claim is your boyfriend as he deserves the truth. He needs to know you cannot be trusted, he needs to know his mate is no friend and YOU need to be the one to tell him.
If you don't I can assure you sooner or later the other guy will and it will only be worse. You also need to evaluate your morals as you will only end up lonely if you continue this way.
2007-02-26 09:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be ashamed of yourself for letting yourself have sexual relations with your boyfriend's best friend, By all means tell your boyfriend about it, and I hope that he will tell you that you and him are through. If you did this when you are bf/gf, what makes him think you will not do it again with someone else if he decides to get married to you in the future. You do not have a conscience because you are not sorry to have betrayed your Boyfriend as you did.
2007-02-26 09:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...your kinda retarded...but, you should definitely tell your boy friend...you'll lose him for sure (well if he has half a brain)...but if you don't it will eat at you for a long time...it may never stop. You'll feel bad even when you tell him and you'll get over it then probably start dating the guy you just fuc ked...while your current boyfriend dies a little inside each day... man you really messed up...
2007-02-26 09:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
As much as you want to hide it, you can't cheat on your boyfriend and expect it to work. And if your best friend has no respect for your relationship (because HE could have refrained from sleeping with you) he's not going to be a good boyfriend.
Break up with your boyfriend and learn how to be faithful and start again with someone completely different.
Brutal but honest.
2007-02-26 09:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by ladygirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yikes girl, that was a BAD move. You have to confess. It will eat away at you if you don't. He will probably break up with you over this or stay with you and never trust you again. I would consider breaking it off with your boyfriend until you clear your head.
2007-02-26 09:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your b/f what happened, how would you if the shoe was on the other foot. You cant feel much for your b/f if you could stray so easily
2007-02-26 09:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Annemarie E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sooner or later you're going to have to fess up. Better now than later - the friend may say something. I don't know how you can couch it - it almost sounds worse if you say it didn't mean anything.
2007-02-26 09:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You cheated plain and simple. Let the boyfriend know. Perhaps he'd be willing to salvage something out of it, but it will be a lot worse when he finds out from someone else - and they ALWAYS find out.
2007-02-26 09:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋