about them and you were disappointed to discover what the real person?
Were you seeing the personality that YOU wanted to see (i.e. were you kidding yourself) or were they the ones that hid something from you?
2007-02-26 09:19:46 · 26 answers · asked by don't stop the music ♪ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called "rose colored glasses" When you take them off and see the person for who they are, they are never that idealized version you had in your head when you were completely intoxicated by him.
2007-02-26 09:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that happens all the time and it happens to everyone sooner or later--- and, the fault falls upon both sides equally given the particular circumstance and situation !!
A lot of the time this is something that happens in the "love connection" zone----this is because--- people that are looking to "attract" you are going to be presenting their absolute "best side" while at thiis "game"-- and will be "playing an indentity" on you-- one that they have found is the most attractive to people and one that WORKS --- hence the word---- Playa --- used to discribe the person who (at least thinks) can run an identity up on people that is successful in getting from them what they want !!
But blame for the success of this "game" can also be attributed to the other person--- because--- a lot of the time, people have a tendency to bliind themselves to things that should be easily seen in these "games" --- things that go unnoticed or given no attention at all that surface within the acquiantance --- Some of the time this is because the individual is entirely too busy "fallling in love" with the person that they WANT this person to be !!!
2007-02-26 09:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH GOD YES!!!
Seeing that I was JUST in this situation I can tell you exactly what that is. You are seeing the person that you want to see, even if everything is going bad for some reason you can't let go of that person, it's because you don't want to because you see something that you've fabricated in your mind and it's sat there for so long you can't make it go away. Then when you are finally faced with the CRUEL reality check you start to see that everything you thought was based off of what you truly want, specific aspects that your hearts yearns for, and mere fabrications of the mind.
2007-02-26 09:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Asia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can ever truly know someone. People are subject to change, in an instant. That's the beauty of being human. People also have a tendency to hide who they truly are out of fear of rejection. Once someone becomes to comfortable though they eventually slip, and show their true colors. I want to say that you should really get to know someone before you pursue a relationship with them, however since we all can change could we ever truly know someone 100%? I don't think so, However I've been wrong on several occasions.
2007-02-26 09:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when relationships are new we do see what we want to see, and we do over look alot. but as we get to know them, and the honeymoon stage ends which it always does, we than begin to see the real them. yes i do believe they hide the true them, not wanting to let u see the things that might hurt a new relationship, but after awhile i just think they don't care as much about us anymore. when we think we are in love we put up with many things, maybe we believe things will change and that love conquers all, but it doesn't. yes we do get disenchanted when we expect a person to be one way and we think they were, only to find out we didn't really know that person after all.
2007-02-26 09:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I dated a guy for 2 1/2 years and I thought I knew him perfect. "we loved each other" well we broke up and I was devistated. But as I got over him I saw so many things that I never saw when we were together. I don't think that he hid things from me but I think he changed a little bit from who he was so we would get along better. I guess you could say that I was "blinded by love" I dunno... the funny thing was is he wanted me back. ya gotta love that huh... now I've met the man of my dreams. =) well I hope this helped even a little bit!
2007-02-26 09:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that some people just put out there their own personalitly the one that they want everyone to see then later on is when you see the real thing coming out and most of the time its nothing what you thought in the first place and those are the people that are fake and try to get someone to like them for what they are not instead of what they really are....
2007-02-26 09:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's usually the case, i think my first girlfriend that i met, i didn't meet the real her until the lust period wore off, which took about the year, the times after that are a test of endurance and tolerance of their daily life. Because I think bottom line is that relationships are just huge tolerance tests. You just have to ask yourself, can you love and imperfect person perfectly?
2007-02-26 09:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup! There was this guy in my class who was an arrogant ####ard but was always really nice to me, we got on well, i thought he was just misunderstood (yeah, right!) we got off together and then had sex. Then he was incredibly nasty to me, acted like he didnt know me and then threatened to blackmail me for help with coursework. I couldnt believe the transformation, from a guy who had never even been angry at me before. I was shocked and felt so betrayed. But I have learned my lesson. Everyone thought I was stupid to hang around with him, turns out they were right.
2007-02-26 09:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by prettyflower17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I had this nice neighbor who was always very friendly. Several times he even brought over some of his homeade stew. We lived next door to him for 15 years then one day he was arrested for killing 23 people and burying their bodies in the basment.
That stew was really good though..........never tasted meat like that before or since.
2007-02-26 09:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋