i recently got with this great guy... he is just amazing... my parents love him, his parents love me and everything is going beautifully... we have minor disagreements from time to time.. but who does'nt... i changed my number and everything... anyway my ex- sex buddy (who i stopped talking to just so we could give this relationship thing a fresh , clean and honest start).... got my number from his cousin... he called me a couple times and we spoke for alittle bit... i told him i had a boyfriend and i was happy and all that good stuff..he said he was happy for me.. and you know... that was that ..but he starting to call me often.. and im not sure whats going on cuz he never tried to talk me into sleeping wit him but now he wants to see me on a friends only basis but... we both know that we want to do the damn thing but he knows the deal...And when i was messing with him(for a year) i wanted to be his girl so bad but he never made the move..so wats the deal? wat should i do?
2007-02-26 09:18:29 · 35 answers · asked by Worry wart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all think, did he want you before??
Secondly, we always want what we can't have, human nature, right??
My personal opinion is he wants to see if he can get you away from your new boyfriend, it's called the thrill of the chase but what will he do when he get's you??? Probably the same as before cuz the chase will be over then, right??
Going back after you've tried once usually just causes more pain...if it didn't work the first time there was a reason, right??
Wish you the best of luck!!
2007-02-26 09:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by every1's friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though your ex sex buddy had feelings for you the whole time but was too scared to commit. This happens to allot of guys. Now that you are with another guy, he is jealous and realizes what he missed out on.
You have two things to consider. One, you are with a great guy now, you know he is into you and not afraid of committing obviously. Why would you throw that away? Is your current boyfriend bad in bed? If so, give it time, the sex will get better as you two get to know each other better. Or, is your ex a better guy for you then who you are with currently? If your ex is someone you see yourself being more compatible with, then I would talk with your ex and let him know that you want a monogamous relationship with him if anything were to happen again. If he is ready to commit then go for it. Do not waste your time with another guy if someone better is wanting you. You are only going to hurt your current boyfriend in the long run.
Basically, you know how you feel deep down inside. You need to follow that. Do not compromise yourself to spare someone elses feelings. You are only going to hurt them worse later or be miserable the rest of your life.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-26 09:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone, don't see him if you know you will be tempted...I WENT THRU THE EXACT SAME THING...and me and him (my ex hump buddy) went thru a time where we stopped talking for a while, but once we did, all our feelings came out in the open and he told me used to actually like me and vice versa, even thoufh he knew i was happy in my relationship w/ my current bf, and we decided to see each other again and....we all know what happens next...but anyway, i felt horrible because i cheated on my bf and put a strain on my relationship with him, even tho i never told him. it messed me up in the head and got me confused about the both of them. if you truly value the relationship w/ your bf now, do not see your ex sex buddy, because if the both of you are still hot for each other, something will happen and you will have major regrets later on.
2007-02-26 09:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nacho Chacho 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your happy don't, you never know how much you love someone or miss them untill you lose them, and by then it's too late, just don't risk your self with this guy, your probably not the only one he tries to do stuff with, I mean guys like this don't have a heart and don't really care they are just after one thing, so becareful, don't ruin soemthing good!
2007-02-26 09:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lilmamasita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna have to pass on the ex partners advances for now. he had his chance and failed to follow through. tough cookies! now your on to someone you say is amazing. why would you want to jeapordize that? everything is in your favor with this new guy. see what happens with that. if it doesnt work out im sure your ex will still be around to get some. he didnt have a problem finding you now so why should he later?
2007-02-26 09:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.
Sex buddy -- Ha, Ha, tell your new boyfriend about your sex buddy phone calls. You be telling lies for the rest of your life. No man wants a women with ex-sex buddies.
2007-02-26 09:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u made the desision to comitt to this new relationship & u think it will work then u should stop answering his calls. Tell ur new bf that 1 of ur x got ur # but don't want to speak w him. B honest.
Good luck
2007-02-26 09:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were his one true steady booty call. You have a boyfriend you like now. Stay with him. Let the relationship run it's course. Never leave one man for another - unless you know 110% that it's the real thing - not a just a sex thing. Think with your head, not your crotch.
2007-02-26 09:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave well enough alone. He only wants to make you his late night hype again. The attention he's giving you is only a backlash of the attenion you're not giving him. Balance which is more important : Sex or your relationship.
2007-02-26 09:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by CeCe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to be your sex buddy again. Stand your ground and don't budge.If he does just want sex, he will eventually leave you alone.I have guy friends and whenever I first meet a guy, I hang out and just wait to see if tehy disappear when nothing happens. If they do disappear,it's because they just wanted sex.
2007-02-26 09:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by JAMIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋