My fiance and I don't want any kids under 15 at our wedding, except for the ringbearer and flower girl. How do we tell our guests this? Do we put it on the invitation? Or perhaps put a note in with the invitation?
2007-02-26 09:14:01 · 10 answers · asked by jlg_jdf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is nothing wrong with wanting a formal wedding without children. I have seen it on the invitation, it was just a quick note stating; "we respectfully request that children under 15 do not attend the wedding or reception as it will be a black tie affair"
Most people were understanding and the majority of us used it as an excuse to have a mom & dad alone night. However, she received some major flack from her aunt who told her is was horrible and inexcusable and if her children couldn't attend, she wouldn't attend either. Which in the end was okay, since her children were the reason she didn't want children there in the first place. She also had 2 young ladies in the hotel where the reception was at and they treated the kids to pizza, games, and a movie. It was one of the best wedding I have ever been too!
2007-02-26 09:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by mel m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hardly anyone understands only those specified on the invitation are invited. Since your cut-off is 15, I'm betting it is more of a reception issue than a wedding issue. Why not provide a babysitter for kids under 6 during the wedding and reception; and, supervised activities in a different area for kids 6-14 during the reception? It can often be a burden for out-of-town guests to hire a babysitter in an unfamiliar location.
2007-02-26 18:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by RAB in Venus TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any kids at my wedding reception, either, and boy, did it cause problems! Anyway, the other poster was correct: the inside of the invitation on the response card clearly indicated who was asked. But, there will always be some people who will respond "4" when you asked "2". In that case, you'll need to call them and explain while little Jimmy and Julie are swell kids, you needed to keep the wedding to a certain size so no children are being invited that aren't in the wedding party.
2007-02-26 17:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by SuzeY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way around this is word of mouth. It is very tacky to state that in your invitations. Your invites will have names so do not ever put "The Smith Family" that will give the impression of the whole household being invited. Always put Mr. & Mrs Smith and if their child is sixteen and they have another one that is twelve only send one to the sixteen year old. This may cause problems as it did at my own wedding. You have to set limits though. Hopefully family members will talk to one another and you can let your mother state to them it is adults only. Pay very close attention to response card numbers. People may still misinterpret the invitation and mark down more than invited. Good luck this is a tough situation.
2007-02-26 17:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought that if an invitation was sent to say Mr and Mrs Jones, then only Mr and Mrs Jones were invited, not all the little Jones'. I dont think you should have to spell it out. If you need to, maybe invite the children you want there separately so they feel important and the parents know that they are invited. Im sure you will get phone calls anyway asking if their children are invited, which you would just say "no they arent" to
2007-02-26 17:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me its kinda rude to let 2 children under 15 be there but no others. either its an adult party only, or kids are invited. you might run into problems if people see 2, 5 year olds running around and their 14 year old wasnt allowed. it may be uncomfortable.
2007-02-26 17:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no matter what you do, your request will offend someone..but if they really want to attend they should respect your wishes. you can have it printed on your invitation in an little corner, "please no small children" or put a note on really pretty paper "young adult and adult reception only".
2007-02-26 17:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by torrescy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in an enclosed note. It would spoil your invitations.
2007-02-26 17:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think on the invitation its more formal that way
2007-02-26 17:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by mrs middleton 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would just put no children. alot of people do this...im doing it.
2007-02-26 17:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jess Allene 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋