What stood out? Was there one thing that was the deal breaker?
2007-02-26 09:01:49 · 15 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I mean was it the sex? their looks? their personality? etc...thanks :)
2007-02-26 09:02:25 · update #1
Sex is a dime a dozen. You don't marry ANYONE because of the sex.
I actually knew that my husband was "the one" after two years. We had finally gotten out of the honeymoon period, which was nice but not reality. We didn't have our first fight, but it was the first reality check.
In a three month span, he left for 2 months with his job, I met his exgirlfriend (whom his dad kept introducing as my then-boyfriend's best girlfriend), had to deal with an auto accident, and lost my grandmother.
It was a transition of "I'm happy because of you" to "I'm happy to be with you." We each realized we were two different people with flaws, but I realized that I really wanted to share my life with this man.
Plus we NEVER jumped ahead of ourselves. We prayed together but we both realized that the future isn't in our hands. We listened to each other and didn't start planning the wedding until AFTER we were engaged. So many people get so obsessed with marriage they forget to just enjoy the relationship!
Now we're married with child #2 on the way.
A marriage isn't going to survive if you base it all off of love, looks, personality, etc. A marriage is tough, and to make it last you both have to work together as a team.
2007-02-26 09:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all... to all of you who say there is no "the ONE", you obviously settled for second best.
Now.
I knew my husband was "the one" from the first date. I am kind of shy, but I could talk to him from the very beginning. We loved the same things and disliked the same things. We both knew what we wanted out of life and ironicly it was the same thing. I couldn't get him off my mind. I smiled ever single time I saw him, talked to him, talked about him, and even thought of him. He added something to my life that was never there before. He can make me laugh when no one else can. He was the perfect gentleman. There was just something about him that set him apart from every other man I'd ever met. His smile was so innocent and his eyes are so pure. My sweet husband is thoughtful and romantic... without being too much. After the first time he held my hand and moved in for that first kiss, everything said "he's the one you've always dreamed of and prayed for". If I am away from him for very long I can't hardly stand it. I love spending time with him. When he or she is the one, you will just know. I had always been told that, I just didn't realize how true it was.
2007-02-26 14:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as "the one". If you spend your life waiting for "the one" you will be lonely for a long time. If you spend your life comparing every guy you date with your imaginary "the one" then you will never find a man who can life up to what you think they should be.
Go find a nice guy, who is compatible with your personality, who you love, loves you, who wants the same number of kids you do, who has a stable decent job, has the same financial goals you do, has the same life long goals you do.
By same goals I mean things like: owning a house, buying a new car, going on vacation, living in a certain area, having dreams that compliment each other, not conflicting.
When you find that guy.....date him for awhile, be engaged for a while, and if you still get along and love him....marry him.
2007-02-26 09:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-26 00:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was my husband's personality and sense of humor that attract me the most. Even now, we don't get too crazy about sex, but we enjoy each others company very much. That's one thing that never gets old.
2007-02-26 09:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was a prayer answer since I was 13 year old.
My sunday school teacher taught me to pray for my husband when I was 13 year olds. I had a special prayer request ~ he to witness my baptism.
Well, God works in miracle way, we got baptized together about 9 years ago. We didn't even realize that until we start serious dating. God answered prayer in His own blessed way!
2007-02-26 09:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Spring 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard of the " Thunderbolt"? when we were exchanging phone numbers we actually shocked each other! We've been together ever since! That was 8 yrs. ago
2007-02-26 09:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
from the minute i saw him!! we just instantly hit it off, and we'd never really talked before. but i saw him, and i knew.. he says it was the same for him with me!! i guess it's destiny.
his bright red hair and very courteous attitude toward me stood out the most!! he treats me like a goddess!!! and i *heart* his hair!
2007-02-26 11:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Duelen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it was his personality - really, the fact that we didn't want to be apart ever is what did it for us - 16 yrs and counting!
2007-02-26 09:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I can't imagine life without him. Plus I don't think there anyone out there who will put up with my craziness :)~
2007-02-26 10:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Helen3879 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋