what can i do if my kids shout at me and call names?

Answer 1

beat them.

why would they do that?

Answer 2

I have four. And they wont do this to me. I think what needs to be done is they need to be sepparated from you and all company, firt. And they can not play aropund, but sit and think about actions and disrespecting you the mother and caretaker.

I quiz my kids. I make them think on what is right and wrong, good or bad. Make them tell you if they spoke in an innopropriate way. They need to answer correctly. OR ELSE they stay in the room and doing nothing for a while.
Then come back, repeat this again. WHEN the child answers corectly, WITH A REPENTANT ATTITUDE, then and only then can you movwe to step 2!! Which is they MUST TELL you why it is wrong. AND they must tell you that they are sorry. NEVER TAKE an appology that is hateful, etc. It MUST be in the correct manner!!!
The child may break down, cry. But they must do this. To not do so creates a child that remains opperating out of their own selfish will, and this creates a child that will be numb to error.

I have a website, and on there is a PARENTING page.
Plus I know of a very good website that has a mother of I think 6 children. She is very wise.


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Answer 3

Are you kidding? You ARE the adult, right? You DO have some control in your own home, right? Children/teens shouting at their parents and calling names is unacceptable. If a young child did that, there would be appropriate consequences in my household and they wouldn't be pleasant. If my teen did it things wouldn't be so nice. I'd be taking away everything in their room if I had to to deal with that problem. They'd come home from school with a mattress on the floor and 3 changes of clothing until they straightened out. They would have to show me some REAL behavior changes in order to start earning their stuff back.

Answer 4

I thought that I have answer to any question but your question is so hard that I really don't know what to tell you to make things better for you. Kids are getting out of hands in perhaps every house and parents feel helpless because to talk tough is one thing but to put it in action is not that easy. If the kids are not old enough you can physically control them but if they are older then it will be difficult to "spank" them. You may threaten them by calling the cops so the next time they will know that to expect. It's hard but you may try to stay away from situations causing family fights.

Answer 5

If my children ever talk back to me, they will get a slap in the mouth. I got the same and so did my husband, and it's a good way to put a kid in check and remind him or her that you are the parent and shouting/calling names is absolutely unacceptable.

Answer 6

Hi. First of all, what a nightmare. I think every parent, or parent to be as I am, dreads this. For me, hitting is not appropriate. If you hit anyone else, you would be in jail. Just a thought. But I do think you must teach them that when they disrespect you or anyone else, they will have consequences. Take things/priveliges away for a few days. Show them that in your home it is not tolerated and that they must earn the rewards of life. I also think you mus always do this in a respectful manner, even if its very difficult, because we learn by actions even more than words. You show them that even when theyre angry with you, as you are with them, they must be respectful.
Hopefully that will help. Good luck.

Answer 7

Sounds like they are running things, and you need to establish your authority in your household. When they shout at you and call you names, you need to give immediate punishment (like time-out or taking away toys)- and you have to do it consistently (every time, even if you sound like a broken record). YOU are in control, not them, and they cannot get away with treating you that way.

Good luck - I know this must be very challenging.

Answer 8

Belts are not just for holding your pants up.

Seriously though, children behave the way do based on their personality and what they learn and observe around them. First, take a good look at how YOU behave when around your children, because ultimately you are their biggest influence as a parent. After that, find out how they're being influenced by other figures in their life, be it relatives, friends, teachers/caregivers, etc.
Positive as well as negative behavior can be learned by children at any age, but especially when they're younger.

Answer 9

Don't shout back at them. Tell them the consequences for their doings in a calm but determined voice. Give non-violent punishment.
Kids imitate the adults, so they must have learned it from someone who shouts a lot.

Answer 10

obviously you're doing something wrong as a parent. You're doing something that has set them off to the point that they will scream at you. Take a minute and think...are the names reasonable? and what reasons could be behind it?

If they call you vulgar names, then you need to stop calling them those, because if they use swear words, chances are they learned how to say them from you using them in your presence.



Kids aren't born rude, you make them that way.

Answer 11

I know that some child advocate groups are going to scream...but, spare the rod and spoiled the child. A good spanking is the answer. People believe in time out, but some children require drastic measures. I did not say "beat", just a reminder of who is the parent and who is the child.