I was at a party and i was actually dancing with my boyfriend when all of the sudden my nextdoor neighbor asked me out..... i thought he was just joking so i ignored him..... when i got home he called me and asked me again but i just thought it was a dare..... a couple of days ago he asked he and said that he was serious... i just ran away cuz i didnt kno wat to say.... i really need help becuz i like this kid as a friend and don't wanna make him my enemy! i also am in NO way going to drop my boyfriend for this kid..... plz help!!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 08:35:58 · 25 answers · asked by sweetie24688 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a guy ask me out on a date, two days before my wedding to my ex-husband. That was sure awkward. I simply said "Aw, that is so nice of you to ask me out, but I'm uh, getting married in two days. Do you want to come to my wedding?". To my surprise, he attended my wedding. I think if you just simply tell the guy that you appreciate him wanting to go out with you, but that you have a boyfriend and you are very devoted to him and would never consider dating anyone while you were with someone else. Then thank him for asking. I think that's polite and keeps his pride intact. If he persists, then he clearly is being obnoxious and you will have to figure out a stronger way to get your point across.
2007-02-26 08:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of advice when dealing with us guys. Be clear and direct. You can be polite, and kind. You can smile and you can be friendly. But be direct and clear.
In this case that means tell him, "I am really flattered that you want to take me out. But I consider you a friend and I'm not going to date you, okay?"
There's nothing rude about that and no reason he has to be an enemy. You're being clear and respectful, and he can't accuse you of leading him on or teasing him or all that. It's important to put the "okay?' at the end there - because you want him to say "yes." You want him to verbalize that he understands. Once he says he understands that you're not going out with him - drop it. It's over. Don't talk to him about it anymore. Don't apologize, and don't act like you feel bad or want to help out his hurt feelings. That will only complicate and confuse the situation.
All you do from then on is treat him exactly as you said you thought of him: as a friend.
2007-02-26 08:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the best answer is to thank him for his interest & tell him that you are currently happily in a relationship & not looking to date anyone else. That shouldn't make anyone a enemy & should preserve his pride. Remember asking someone out is risky & a guy is really putting a lot on the line when he does it - so be nice & be sincere.
2007-02-26 08:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by ang_phx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez - just talk to him and tell him that since you have a bf there is no way you can go out with him. Stop all the drama and start growing up. If you going to play in the dating scene you need to figure out the rules.
2007-02-26 08:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his friendship means a great deal to you & that you are in a relationship right now, but later down the road the 2 of you might have a chance (whether you mean it or not). If you can't say it to his face write him a note.
2007-02-26 08:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend, and you do not wish to date him, then you need to talk to him about it. He might find you eluding him to be hurtful, even though he should be considerate of your existing relationship. Certainly don't feel the need to accommodate him on this, however, since you are in a relationship. In short, let him down easy, but firmly, and keep in mind that if he turns sour because of this, he isn't a true friend.
2007-02-26 08:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by rclarksworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nicely but firmly that you like him as a friend and that you have a boyfriend already so you are not interested in going out with him. Tell him that you want to stay friends with him, but if he doesn't respect your wishes here that you will have to stop being friends with him.
2007-02-26 08:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pull up your courage and tell the kid that you only like him as a friend and that you're really into your boyfriend now. be easy on him, but don't let him think he's got a chance with you. if he's your friend he'll get the picture and let it go.
2007-02-26 08:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by red_waverunner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him down easily don't dump it all on him at once tell him that you don't like him like that or he is not your type. If he keeps bothering you about him tell him again but this time be firm tell him this is the last time you will tell him and next time you are going to inform someone your bf, peers, anyone.
2007-02-26 08:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are a great friend but you are dating someone now. Also let him know that you would like to still be friends but that is it and that you enjoy being with your current boyfriend. Just be upfront with him so you don't loose a friend.
2007-02-26 08:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋