I'm getting married next year and I've been working on my guest list & have a problem. I've been at my place of employment for over 10 years & have known a few of them for just that long. I don't want to invite ALL of them..as I only associate w/a few of them outside of work. At the same time, i don't want to hurt anyone else's feelings if i don't invite them. truth is we only want to invite 125..but w/all the others from my office..it will be 150 too many. How do I do this w/out hurting anyone's feelings. The are all excited about me getting married. My fiance says that if i don't associate w/them outside of work...then i don't need to invite those people.
2007-02-26 08:22:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think people understand that you have to have a guest list limit and the whole work place cannot be invited. I wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to a co-workers wedding but would like to see the pictures when they were brought in.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 08:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is right. Although you'd love to invite everyone, it's just not feasible. And most people, even if they feel a little slighted at first, will understand that. I say maybe just send the people you are inviting personal notes or e-mails telling them that you are inviting them, but ask them to be really discrete about it since you aren't able to invite everyone.
And then maybe to assuage everyone's feelings should they find out, have a separate wedding get together with all the people from work, either before the big day, or after you return from the honeymoon. That way, even if they won't be at the actual event, they know that you do want them to be part of the celebration.
2007-02-26 08:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by CrysV 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in May and I went through this. I wasn't at my company for as long, but I understand. I don't work with all of them or talk to all of them outside of work. I only invited the ones that I was close to. The ones that know my fiance and me and the ones that know about my life. I hope that helps.
2007-02-26 08:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by wendylynn1009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only invite those you do associate with outside of work. people should understand that there is a limit to how many you can have at a wedding. and send the invites to their homes, dont hand them out at work so those not being invited can see them. maybe mention to the few who are being invited not to mention it.
2007-02-26 09:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by cubanirishgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to mail the invite's to there home address, and you could let them know that you are not inviting everyone from the office. It is your wedding, I am sure they will understand that not everyone could be invited. If all else fails, maybe you can host, or a friend could host a small party for you and invite all your co-workers to celebrate with you then. Congrat's and Good luck!
2007-02-26 08:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by buzyb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, since you have a sizable number of co-workers, it is totally appropriate to only invite those who you socialize with outside the office. I would recommend you obtain the home addresses of your co-workers and mail their invitations to their homes. I would also discuss with them in private to refrain from discussing their invitation to the wedding with other co-workers. I would also limit your conversations regarding your wedding plans with your co-workers as well. Doing so often leads co-workers to believe that they will be included in the wedding festivities. In the event that someone not on the guest lists asks about attending, just let them know unfortunately you have space restrictions at your site and are not able to include everyone from work but you'll be share to share your pictures with them afterwords.
2007-02-26 09:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your fiances is right!! i had an experience similar to that last year. word got out that i was inviting people (one had a very big mouth, i was trying to keep it quiet) and it got uncomfortable. i ended up having to just tell flat out that she wasnt invited. (this person harrassed me for weeks for an invite) its all up to you and your fiance as to who you invite. people should understand. its your day, your paying for it not them. if they cant understand that, then thats their problem. maybe thoes not invited could throw a party for the two of you after the wedding. that way they can celebrate but at a different time.
2007-02-26 08:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what I did was just invite 'the girls' that I always talked to at work and outside of work.
Remember that you can invite the whole office when you start getting back your RSVP's. You can figure that 50% of the people you invite are actually going to show.
Good Luck & Congrats!
2007-02-26 08:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
are you gonna have your wedding and reception at the same place?? If so then invite them all to the wedding but on the invitation say something like 'reception for invitation only' be sure to let them no if they don't get an invitation to the reception then they can't come
2007-02-26 08:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your fiance. If you don't associate with certain co-workers outside of work, then you shouldn't feel obligated to invite them. You can't please everyone and the people that you are not inviting should understand that. Congrats!
2007-02-26 08:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by sp1230 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋