While i was in the relationship, i was so sure i wanted to breakup. Now that it has actually happened, i question whether i did the right thing? Anyone ever feel this way after a breakup?
2007-02-26 08:13:23 · 10 answers · asked by HopelessOne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, a lot of people feel that way after a breakup. This is mostly due to the fact that everything is new, they were used to a certain routine while in a relationship, they might miss the talks, they might realize they don't have as many friends anymore etc.; in other words, there are many reasons why someone should feel the way you do after the end of a relationship. In any case, to answer your question, the only way you are going to figure out whether you did the right thing or not is by taking some time and trying to figure out what bothered you so much about her that you ended up leaving her. So, if you have to, make a list of things positive and negative in your relationship; also try tio figure out if you saw your relationship going anywhere in the future, if she intrigued you enough, were you compatible etc. Once you are done with this part, and once you figure out whether the good outweighs the bad, look at your notes again, then sleep on it and only then make a decision. (Because most likely, you broke up with your girl for a reason, and you are now missing her and that's why you are reconsidering your chioce; on the other hand, if the note writing seems too laborious to you, thjen just forget her). Good luck!
2007-02-26 08:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with someone because the relationship started to become destructive to your personal well being...you should congratulate yourself.
So many people stay with others way after the relationship becomes too uncomfortable to fix. Then they are stuck. I do not believe in "Breakup Remorse". What ever made you "sure" you needed to leave that other person was so strong that you had to act on it ...If you had feelings for this person, sure, you are going to miss them. But, don't go back...keep moving forward and use mistakes as lesson what not to do the next time you get involved with anyone.
2007-02-26 08:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's always gonna be that 2 or 3 weeks or so where you're not sure if you did the right thing. Because it's human nature to miss something you used to have everyday. I mean it's pretty drastic to go from hanging out, talking, laughing and laying with a person everyday to not hearing or seeing them weeks at a time, if at all. So that's normal to wonder if it was right. Just know that those are normal feelings and accept them. Try not to stress out about it too much, and sooner or later you'll come across someone else who will make you happy, and you'll forget you ever had those feelings. Good luck, dawg.
2007-02-26 08:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by bitchlips411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is quite natural to feel that way. You are not alone. There are always two sides to a relationship, good times and bad times. Since you have made the decision to end a relationship, it will bring a closure to a period of time that you both shared together. Remember the good times and move on.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 08:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time.
Easiest way to figure out if you did the right thing is write a list of reasons why you broke up and the reasons you miss the relationship.
Look at those answers and decide which ones are most important to you and your future. It really helps.
2007-02-26 08:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Cemetery Gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people go through this. Go through the reasons again, it could just be that you are lonely and the thought of bad company is better than no company.
You are better off alone than with someone you don't want to be with... keep yourself busy.
This too, shall pass.
2007-02-26 08:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by aZoomm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what you got til its gone. Hind sight is 20-20.
We've probably all been there from one time or another.
Sometimes you question yourself simply cuz you miss the security of having a relationship.
2007-02-26 08:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes, but being lonely makes you feel that way,your heart told you to do it so it must have been the right move
2007-02-26 08:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are making a game out of life... do what is real.... yes I have, just remember experimenting with your life can leed you down a road of missgivings
2007-02-26 08:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am goin thru the same thing right now ! lol! and it sucks! just look at it this way.. if it was meant to be.. u'd still b together! :)
2007-02-26 08:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by hanna_lowery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋