Alright, here's the deal. I'm 14, I REALLY like this girl at my school and we're pretty good friends but not best friends by any means. I've liked her for a really long time but have never said anything to anybody. She probably doesn't like me but I still really like her. I just can't build up the nerve to ask her out and if I do and she says no I still want to be friends with her. What should i do
2007-02-26 08:06:34 · 21 answers · asked by hogfan692 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
o yea im a guy not a bi girl
2007-02-26 08:08:41 · update #1
ask her out
2007-02-26 08:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Joe the God of Averageness® 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I've been in this situation and in the end I swallowed my pride and asked the question. It was either that or keep my secret a secret for the rest of my life. Why dont you try testing the water first to get an idea of how she feels about you? A good way to do this will be to joke about it one day and make a comment like would you ever go out with me? Or would you ever see me as more than just a friend? Turn it into a joke though so she doesn't suspect your being serious. Find a way to get into a conversation with her about boyfriends and joke about relationships and then pop the question or questions in there. Dont ask too many questions though and dont ask why too often as she will pick up that you maybe being serious. If you get the responce your hoping for dont ask her out there and then. Leave it a while, and i dont mean just a few hours. Leave it about a week or so and then one day when your on your own with her ask her seriously. Its best to have her on her own though so she doesn't get embarrassed about it if her other friends are about or feel pressured in giving you an answer.
Also please consider the SOMETIMES consequences of forming a relationship with a friend! Would you be prepared to lose her altogether if you did have a relationship and then you broke up. Some people are lucky to stay friends with their ex's, I usually do but it can mean you even lose her as a friend. Take EVERYTHING into consideration before you ask her out for real.
Just one more thing t think about. I always believe theres no harm in trying something. What i mean by this is, if your worried she will say no and laugh at you about it DONT BE. Lifes too short to worry about it, SHE MIGHT SAY YES. Just think "what if you never ask her out" you may never know if there was to be something more between you or not.
Girls usually like the guys to ask them out, so dont wait around for her to ask you as this may not happen, if she does like you she maybe thinking the same things that you are.
If at the end of all this it doesn't turn out how you had hoped remember theres plenty more girls out there and some you havent even met yet. Keep your head high.
ps, my relationship with my friend turned out alright but didnt really last that long. This was when i was 20 and we dated for about a year but when we split up we didnt speak for almost 5 years but im glad to say we are friends again now and have put our past behind us.
Hope this helps good luck x
2007-02-26 16:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out. You got nothing to lose. IF she says no, act like you never asked her be her friend and you never know she might say yes down the road. Oh and be yourself/honest. There is a reason you too are friends in the first place.
2007-02-26 16:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by bballguy4212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am the exact same way and the exact same age. i have asked out about 3 girls and they have all said yes. the way i did it was just write a really romantic note. i know that all people are not good writers so if you decide to do this and need some help just email me at tnel28@hotmail.com.
2007-02-26 16:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start out with small talk to her about her day and how things are going. NEVER ASK HER OUT DIRECTLY. You have to let things build up before she can trust you to take her out. Remember, start with small talk, and work your way up. Good Luck.
2007-02-26 16:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out in life you got 2 take risks and maybe in the end it will in the way u want it 2 b
2007-02-26 16:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her and see if she likes you. Built up that convidence and ask her already. If she does say no then at least you'll know and not have to go through your life wondering if she did like you.
2007-02-26 16:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she would like to go somewhere with you after shcool, or on the weekend. It is better to know the truth than always wonder if!!!
2007-02-26 16:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 high school about 9th grade your school has clubs invite her to stay after with you one day and cahat then keep talking to her offer to cary her books to class and such and then ask her out one day good luck
2007-02-26 16:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"build up the nerve to ask her out "
2007-02-26 16:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by fruit_challenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋