My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now and we talk alot about a future together. We think that we are perfect for each other, but our problem is that we argue over alot immature things. Our main problem is jealousy because I am away at college and he is back at home. I really want this to work out, but I am tired of fighting and arguing so much. What do I do??
2007-02-26 08:01:29 · 13 answers · asked by Whitney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the two of you are that jealous that you argue over it constantly, then both of you need to step back from the relationship and take a closer look at what is best for the both of you. Why is there so much insecurity going on between the two of you. Did someone do something to cause this or the two of you just basically insecure. If the answer is the latter, then that will need to be resolved if you are talking about a future together. I definitely do not think that at this stage the two of you are ready for a future. I feel that there is too much personal baggage that you need to work out such as finding out why the extreme jealously. Other the two of you can answer that among yourselves.
2007-02-26 08:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to lay some ground rules for arguing and FOLLOW THEM. We will not raise our voices, we will discuss with a resolution in mind, not to prove right and wrong. We will never call one another names. If the argument becomes to intense either party can call a timeout and they must be honored however discussion will need to take place again once things are more calm. Try this for a few weeks.
If you cannot break the cycle of arguing then move on to someone else. No matter how much you love one another or how "perfect" things may seem, constant arguing is no way to live and will only bring down the relationship as time goes on.
2007-02-26 16:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u argue alot becuse u love each other too much and u really want things 2 work out that u would do anythin 2 stay together. i think if u both know that u want 2 have a future together then most likely u will. ok u both need 2 learn 2 trust each other i know its hard and u must really love each other if u fight alot about jealousy problems.ok u just need 2 learn 2 trust each other.I wish u luck and i hope u and ur bf can have a future together.
2007-02-26 16:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by emochick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should finish school and see what happens then, you shouldnt get married cause you obiously are not there yet. Why talk about the future now if you have a whole life time together. Two years is quite some time and i think you should just give it time for both of you to grow up and be responsible and become a great married couple. But please just give it time finish school and then talk about marriage and a future together
2007-02-26 16:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fight with my husband all the time over stupid things. I know it makes him mad but I just keep yelling at him... But what I find that helps is to APOLOGIZE. If it is something so totally stupid, then say "You know what? I'm sorry. I have no reason to be arguing about this." And also... if you two are meant to be, then you will get married. Don't rush the man. Just be happy that he loves you, and see what happens when you are through with school.
2007-02-26 16:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone grow up, you can talk to each other about what the issues are and why, but unless there is a basis of trust, it will not improve and sometimes you have to also confront that issue. You are both young and have plenty of time for a future. Try and give yourselves a chance to grow and mature and experience life and that in itself may improve the situation. Believe in yourself and your love for your boyfriend. Just remember it takes two to make it work and two to break it up. You both have to work at it.
2007-02-26 16:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Diane T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my soon 2 be ex argue constantly and we live together, weve been together 2 yrs and the only solution for me to do is move on cause its not worth it maybe hes not the one. i know i dont wanna argue with someone for the rest of my life.
2007-02-26 16:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to sit down and talk. Really talk. Why does he think that you would cheat. Do you have total faith in him. Instead of fighting over petty stuff just let it go.
2007-02-26 16:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and him always aruge then it should show you that your not meant to be. My ex boyfriend and I fought a lot and spend 4 years together and just found out that we weren't meant to be. You sholdn't stay together if you are going to keep fighting. That's not a healthy relationship.
2007-02-26 16:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be patient, you could both really really try and when you start argueing just change it into a discussion, if it's about something really petty, just try and both make it so it doesnt happen and try drop it straight away.
hope this helps?
2007-02-26 16:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋