Why should a guy be friends with a girl if she has a boyfriend or got rejected by her? Maybe I am being bitter but I hate just being friends with a girl if she rjected me or already has a bf. It's not like she's thinking about you when she is with her bf and most likely she will never help you out in a situation fi it was a choice between her and her boyfriend. If guys are such "good friends" to these girls than how come they just use them? What exactly is the point to being friends with a girl in this type of a situation? It's not like you could ever date them or ever be with them.
2007-02-26 07:51:27 · 6 answers · asked by trancemix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...Great question...but before I answer, let us first make something clear: Friends and Friends with potential for more are two different things and I assume that you are talking about the second one, right? I'm a girl and while I completely understand where you are coming from it is also important that you understand where she is coming from....Listen, it is hard for girls to come straight out and tell you NO, I am not interested! Telling guys NO is a learned skill that comes with experience and even then it is reserved for complete jerks (and you don't seem like one). So, she is trying to be nice to you and hope that you will eventually get the point (point being that she has a bf and she is not interested in having another one). Second, while she is trying to be polite, she is at the same time trying to use you as a fall back plan; meaning that in case her and her bf thing doesn't work out, you are going to give her a shoulder to cry on and comfort her until she finds a new guy (and then again it is bye, bye). (Don't blame her for building a safety net, many guys do it too.) So, in other words, you have it right...girls will use you (just like any other human being would) if you let them, and will keep taking if you are willing to give. And the thing is that you hold no power (or leverage) in this game because if you say "enough" she will just go back to her bf and forget all about you. The only way you can win this game is if you have something that she wants (like homework help etc) and you will not give it to her. So, instead of wasting so much energy on a girl like that (I mean she might be nice but is UNAVAILABLE) you should go and find yourself a girl that will be your own. So, in other words, when a girl says "let's be friends" (it is the worst thing a girl can say to a guy BTW according to most guys) you move on as soon as you realize that she is not contributing anything to the relationship (which she obviously isn't and won't).
I mean you can be persistent and become her slave, hope it doesn't work out between her and the bf and maybe then you will have a chance (but by then she will be taking you for granted and will probably drop you as soon as she finds a better deal-in her opinion). You don't have time for that now do you?
2007-02-26 08:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be her friend if it bothers you I would think it would be very awkward to do that.......you should tell her face to face that you thought you could remain friends with her but now you realize that its not possible for you because it feels like a punishment to see her with others and you need to cut that stress out of your life and have to make a clean break in order for you to move on because you still feel too many things for her and say you hope she will understand and say goodbye and walk away........I have to ask why cause yourself unecessary grief when you could be missing opportunities elsewhere.Dont be rude to her just tell it like it is how I decribed above and thats all you gotta do.
2007-02-26 16:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people have friends because they like friends ...if you don't like it then don't be their friends...suck it up...seems to me you are the one not being a friend if all you are thinking about is "relations" with them
2007-02-26 16:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i never thought bout it that way!!!!! i say u should still be her friend cuz she may like ur company and who knows, if u guys become the best of friends u may become boyfriend and girlfriend
2007-02-26 15:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by fashgurl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You never know I have banged more than half of my friends that were girls. If I did not bang them I banged one of their friends or relatives.
RJ
2007-02-26 15:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
then dont be friends or just keep working the charm if you want to date her
2007-02-26 15:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋