he broke up with me 2 months ago. now he im's me on aim and post away messages related to me like "i miss you; I'm playing games trying to forget the past;it's not working" . he also sent me anonymous emails apologizing although it's pretty obvious it's from him. but he never addresses them directly to me from him. we are each other's first love, i know there's nobody else.
if i post a link to a song in my away message he'd im me saying good song, you know, just little things like that. he never mentioned getting back together though. when he broke up with me he begged me to leave him alone and wanted nothing to do with me. is he ever gonna actually say to me: i made a mistake, let's try again?
I still want him back. what should i do to make him actually say let's try again? should i quit going on aim to force him to actually talk to me by phone(we are long distance) or drop him hints on aim to tell him i'm interested he should ask me?
2007-02-26 07:42:16 · 10 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally I feel honesty is the best policy here. You obviously are having a hard time letting go and he is not making it easy. I think you should either by phone or email(sometimes writing is easier to say all you need to plus no interruptions) and tell him how you feel and that he is sending you mixed signals. Get it all out in the open and let him take it from there. He needs to make a choice no half ways here or maybes. If he does then you have what you want. If he doesn't then and only then will you be able to put it behind you. Either way you will have an answer and be able to move on with your life.
2007-02-26 07:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by french fry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to know the reason why you broke up in the first place. Was it confusion on his part, was he going through something and need time? If he just felt like breaking up with you for the hell of it, then I dont think you should even take him back.
Second, tell him in a nice way that he is confusing you and that he told you to leave him alone.. and that is what you are going to do. Then dont call him, dont contact him first and if he wants to get back together then he will make all the moves to contact you and talk to you first.
I just dont think that you should fall into a trap and let him think that he could break up with you and come and go as he pleases. This happens a lot in relationships...
good luck
2007-02-26 07:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of sitting wondering if he has feelings for you still and playing his mind game you need to be blunt. Just come and say to him that he begged you to leave him alone however he’s now making contact with you. Ask him what exactly is it that he wants and why is he contacting you. Tell him that if he really honestly meant for the 2 of you to be over with then he needs to stop sending the mixed signals so that the both of you can heal and move on. Let him know that this is hurting you and not allowing you to move on and it’s also not allowing him to move on either. He needs to be a man and either tell you that he’s made a mistake and would like to correct it or tell you that he just wants to be friends and stop sending you the messages that says otherwise. He more than likely isn’t going to do so unless you force him to so, you need to put your foot down and let him know exactly what’s on your mind and how you feel. Stand your ground and don’t play his games.
2007-02-26 08:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to find out is just to ask him what it all means. Either he is going to say I want you back, I am playing with you, or I don't want you back. Just ask him what is up with all this stuff that he is doing
2007-02-26 07:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want my man back to and I pray to god that he finds it in his heart to give me another chance to be in his life. I wish you the best and I think that you should just ask him and if you know he is a good man I know that he won't hurt you with his answer.
2007-02-26 07:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by BooBear345 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wanted you that badly he would come right out and ask you for forgivesness, he wouldn't be playing these childish games!! You are reading too much into it.
2007-02-26 07:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
If he wants you back so bad then he needs to be a man about it and call you. I wouldn't settle for anything less.
2007-02-26 07:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "dude, I thought you didn't want to talk to me...what is going on?" if he doesn't say anything either ask him to try again or just forget him....if he is your first then you have plenty of time and other options....good luck
2007-02-26 07:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop hints it'll be easier
2007-02-26 07:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Awakened 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him?
2007-02-26 07:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋