My half sister told me a week ago that before I was born, my dad had an affair with two women. He's gone out west to work and I'm afraid he may be doing it again. I cant tell my mom because I'm waiting for my sister to approach my dad with it-I was sworn to secrecy until she does. What can I do to cope with this?
2007-02-26 07:35:01 · 6 answers · asked by Gotha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nothing. it doesn't concern you!! no matter what, he's still your dad- that won't change. what he did in the past may not have anything to do with his life now.
2007-02-26 07:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can feel how you are torn with this but it is not your concern, or your business. Your mom and dad are adults, and this is an adult matter, and should be dealt with by the adults. If you need to speak about this, then it should be with your dad.
I found out my mom was having an affair when I was 19, and it was very hard to deal with. I spent time away from my home because I had really idolized my mom and couldn't believe she would do this to my dad, but he was aware. That was 25 years ago, and now that I am in my 40's, I have my own children, and I can say from experience that you need to step away from this, and leave it to the adults.
Relationships are complicated. It is hard to forgive a parent when it seems to be so 'cut and dry', but if this affair is true, it happened before you were born, and really doesn't concern you. A mistake may have been made, but perhaps it's already been dealt with.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 16:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by laura g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this matter does not concern you or your sister. telling your mother is just going to cause a rip in the family. what if, your sister was wrong? how does she know? was she there when your dad was with another women? this matter is for your mother and father, and has nothing to do with you or your sister so stay out of it.
2007-02-26 16:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lot for a kid to cope with but you need to talk to someone. How about your church pastor or your school guidance counselor/officer. They will be there to help you with any questions/issues you have right now and there when your sister confronts your father if you need someone. Are you sure your sister has accurate information? You should consider where she got it. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-26 15:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that totally sucks, id hate my dad (sorry) est humanum errare,
to cope with this go to your guidance counselor, trusted friends, or blogs to talk to people with similar problems, i know it must be hard but eventually confront your parents, your confidence and upfrontness with them will have them being honest with you. or just randomly put out there that this boy in your chem class w/e, is out of school cause his parents are having hard times from affairs, and you would totally hate that if it were your parents (wwink wink)
2007-02-26 15:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by JulyBeetle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to a Guidence Councilar. Thats what they are there for.
2007-02-26 15:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋