Girlfriend broke it off a 6 weeks ago, has new bf, but continues to contact me. What gives?

Question

my ex gf will text or message me to let me know how sad my myspace profile song makes her. And to say how sorry she is about hurting me. She has a new bf that she started seeing less than 2 weeks after our split. Why would she contact me if she has him? Is she trying to keep her foot in the door? is it out of guilt? How often do women mean what they say in a breakup? i.e. is there a chance she'll come back, and her leaving is a way to try to get me to fix what she sees as issues (which were minor by the way) she says there is still love there. She had a gut feeling that this isn't where she was suppose to be. I think her gut feeling was the issues that need to be addressed. (living too near to the ex, money issues.which will be cleared up shortly, as soon as my house sells, i had some depression issues that have since been dealt with. all short term fixable stuff) other than that, we got along GREAT, and her leaving was a huge suprise to me.any thoughts, advice is welcome!

Answer 1

My first thought is to move on and find someone else. This girl is playing head games with you and you don't need that. You deserve better than that. She's probably contacting you because she either A) has not gotten over you, B) wants to keep her foot in the door in case things don't work out with the new bf, C) is just playing head games with you to try and hurt you, or D) all of the above. If she started seeing someone less than 2 weeks after you split up, chances are she is either young and immature, or she was seeing the new bf while the two of you were still together. A lot of times women don't say what they mean when breaking up because they don't want to hurt your feelings, or they are afraid if they tell you the truth, you will get angry. Who knows if she will come back; sounds to me like you are better off without her. As far as issues between you, if someone is mature and they really care about you, they would talk to you about those issues and work together with you to resolve those issues, instead of breaking up with you and leaving you to deal with everything by yourself. You say other than the fixable issues, you two got along great, but it doesn't sound to me like she contributed much to your relationship. I certainly do not want to hurt your feelings, but it seems to me like you would be better off with someone that really cares about you, appreciates you, and will stand by you through thick and thin. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Dude, I'm sorry, but let me put the pieces together for you ...

1.) total shock that she left you
2.) "minor problems" caused breakup
3.) 2 weeks after the breakup she's got a new boyfriend

Answer: She was cheating on you. You all know I'm right.

Now you have to ask yourself if you could get over that knowing she'll probably do it again. Which she most likely will. She's just leading you on in case this new guy doesn't work out or something. Girls love to pull this "pity case" bullshit after a breakup like they're sorry they did it, but oops, I've got a new boyfriend now, I guess I can't go back.

Move on.

Answer 3

She sounds as though she still has feelings for you. Instead of trying to deal with her issues that was bothering her as far as you’re concerned she walked away. She now sounds as though she has some regret and doesn’t know what or how to deal with it. You need to just be blunt and ask her what is it that she wants from you if anything. Tell her that you don’t want to play the childish mind games. Ask her why is she calling you when she moved on shortly after your break up. If she acts like she doesn’t know or doesn’t want to talk about it then tell her when she can answer your questions then contact you but until that time, you don’t feel you have much to talk about because she’s giving off mixed signals.

Answer 4

It sounds lke you need to move on. Put yourfocus on what is right for you, not her. Her breaking things off but still hanging around isnt fair to you. You need to show her how much you respect yourself by not allowing her to string you along. She may try to get you back for good if you do this. So if you feel you are strong enough then its a good way to build your self confidence. It might be really hard to do that, but you will be glad in the long run, if she isnt the person for you.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you already know. She needed you to take care of some business of yours so that you all could go further, but maybe you wouldn't listen to her, until she broke it off? Sounds like she definately still loves you and broke up, hoping that these things would get taken care of and you all would get back together. If you want her, talk to her directly and ask her what this stuff means, or if you are missing something. Just ask her so you'll know to move on, or wait... if this is what you chose. Tell her you need some answers.

Answer 6

I would change my myspace profile song to something really up beat....like...I feel a party coming on!....go out and ask some great looking women if you could take some pictures together...look really really happy!...put them on your myspace...makes me sick that she couldn't even wait 2 weeks before she is out dating again...and she said there is still love?...nothing she had done...nothing she is doing...exhibits love...you need to kick the idea of being back with her to the curb...

Answer 7

she wants to keep in touch with u because if her bf now dumps her she knows that u will be there for her and will take her back in a nano second. so i say go ahead and talk to her but don't listen to most of the shi* she is talking about. good luck.

Answer 8

She is keeping you simmering on the back burner in case the other relationship doesn't work out. Do not talk to her.

Answer 9

She isn't worthy trying to analyze, she's an extremely immature game playing fool that has no clue what she wants.

Answer 10

Be friends don't shun her. She's obviously trying to keep the relationship alive