I dont mean knocking them all over but a clip around the Lughole to a unruly teenager or a tap on the backside to a misbehaveing toddler.
I personally think its ok if you dont take it to far, It never did me any harm.
2007-02-26 07:34:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Graham H... It means that no harm was caused in the long run.
2007-02-26 08:13:59 · update #1
Graham again..never would I think its a good idea, but sometimes it may become neccesary, What do you do to a teenager, who tells you to f off, everytime you want them to do something(Example by the way)?. I once smashed the front room up, and then my old man gimme a slap, I certainley didnt do it again, (He wont have enjoyed slapping me).
As for teachers hitting you, They have no right whatsoever, that is why it has been abolished in schools.
Also hitting a young person for satisfaction is not what I am trying to portray, folks like that will do it for the anything, as you say for "satisfaction.
Do you understand what I am saying?.
2007-02-26 19:39:42 · update #2
Definitely an effective way of controlling unruly behaviour, look how respectful kids were of their parents up until a few decades ago.
I disagree that a simple smack causes a child to behave violently.
One smack as a child is quite often all that is required because you then spend the rest of your childhood in fear that you'll get another if you step out of line.
Kids these days have no fear of authority, a smack never did me any harm or had any lasting effects on me!
I blame this stupid human rights act and all the nancy pansy EU ideas being inflicted on us!
(I await the thumb downs.....)
2007-02-27 04:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Poppy 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Personally, I think it is ultimately up to the parents and so long as the child is not being obviously abused, no other parents should intervene. I also believe that BOTH parents need to be on board with whatever the decision may be. There are state laws the govern how much is too much and offer a free vacation to a 6 x 9 cell with 3 square meals a day along with a court date.
I was raised by parents that believed in it. Looking back, I kind of don't blame them, I was a little pain in the ***. Being a dad now, I would only look upon it as a last resort and only if my wife agreed to it.
If done as a last resort, one cannot do it out of anger. People who have a tendency to spank as discipline do it because they find disciplining children through means other than spanking, can be intellectually challenging.
I think that if you are going to have kids, it should be legally mandated to take parenting courses. I also believe that it is only fair that the state you live in should provide the funding for this as they provide the funding for the consquence side of abuse. It would benefit these little gifts we call kids and make us better people as a whole.
There is nothing in the world like happy kids.
2007-02-26 08:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never understand this 'it never did me any harm' crap. If they hit you it harmed you. That is the purpose of hitting. One harm it did was to make you think it is a good idea to do it to kids now you are an adult and in a position to dish it out instead of take it.
Sometime it is necessary to reinforce a point to a child that they can't go near a busy road or run off in a busy department store but it does harm the child and the parent and is not a good thing.
This is the long run. The result of them hitting you is that you think it is a good idea for you to do it to kids now. Apart from the pain at the time and the bitterness that kids feel, and the fact that they never forget, the result in the long term is you thinking you can do it because your parents did.
If you want to think about even longer term. I am 55 years old and I will never forgive my father or any teachers who satisfied themselves by beating me.
2007-02-26 07:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
I don't disagree with it but experience tells me that it doesn't work. The best form of punnishment is to take away something they enjoy such as the playstation. This makes them think twice about there actions.
2007-02-26 10:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's perfectly fine, but should be a last resort. I don't automatically spank my kids every time they tick me off. I try calm approaches, and other discipline first, but if they continue to defy, or disrespect me, they're getting an a#$-whipping! They know this too.......which is why I DON'T have to do it very often! My observation of kids who don't get spankings is that they know they won't and therefore act like hoodlums that no one can stand to be around!
Let me add that household circumstances play a huge role in disciplinary differences; EX...A house with many children (like mine) requires stricter discipline than a house with only 1 child. Because a mom with 4 kids to tend to is much to busy to spend her whole day begging and pleading with just one of them to act right! kwim? Wheras, if I only had 1 child, verbal discipline would most likely do the trick most of the time.
Everyone has their own circumstances and we all have to do what works best for "our" families.
2007-02-26 07:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I do understand what your saying but I think smacking young teaches them to hit out in others young
They learn from you
I try exclusion first it seemed to work for mine, I am not saying they have never had a smacked bottom but it is on extremely rare occasions, and they would of had to of pushed it and pushed it............
2007-02-26 07:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's ever ok. That is not acceptable behavior between adults so why should it be acceptable between an adult and a child? In addition a child is totally defenseless and dependent on the adult, and using force upon a child is abuse of this relationship.
2007-02-26 07:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by twinmom 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think that a smack is sometimes the only way to get through to a toddler, as for older children, I think it hurts them more to take things away from them for a while.
2007-02-26 07:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by JO74 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I disagree with hitting children.
It teaches them that violence is acceptable.
There are plenty of ways to discipline a child.
You just have to find the one that works. e.g. take away favourite toy, playstation, pocket money, whatever is valued by them.
Plus remember to praise the good stuff too.
2007-02-26 07:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Haydn 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a good way of teaching a child that if someone does something you don't like, just smack them and it will be alright.
Not the kind of values I want my children to have thankyou
2007-02-26 07:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋