Self-injury-- cutting and suicide; I have got two questions about those two topics.?

Question

My first question is: why is it so wrong? It helps me cope with my current problems. Why did I get hospitalized for it, when it's me that I am hurting? It's not like I am hurting anyone who means anything. The second is since it is "wrong" does anyone know any sites in the USA that have message boards that will not kick you off for asking for help with either suicide or self-injurious topics? Thanks

Answer 1

well suicide is just way too extreme. there is NO reason to kill yourself over something. and cutting is just as bad.

1. its wrong because there are other ways to coping with problems then going EMO. you can die from loss of blood, and nobody wants a bloody mess.

2. i dont know about any websites, but a suicide hotline is usually good to help you with

Answer 2

Honestly, I've had the same question for a very long time.
I've been cutting for, going on 3 years now and I know for a fact that it's kept me alive. If I hadn't had that release then I'm sure I would of gone crazy and probabley did myself in by now.
But to answer your questions:
1) It's wrong because [[and this is what the therapists tell me]] you're inflicting pain on yourself to cope with a situation (or situations) that you feel you are unable to cope with, without the cutting. However, there are many other coping methods that you can use that isn't hurtful to your body. Such as: exercise, drawing, singing, dancing, running, walking, biking, talking to people, writing it out, doing something artsy, etc.
2) A really good site is http://www.recoveryourlife.com.
I seriously adore that site.
Hope I helped, if not somewhat.

Answer 3

Well, I used to do what you do now to cope, and when I almost died, I realized that this wasnt healthy, and I needed to figure out what the problems were that made me do this.

I will not preach to you that it's wrong, its a complicated thing to go through. Chances are, your parents were really worried about, and by hurting yourself, you are hurting them and the love they have for you.

You have to want to stop, but if you don't please be careful. Think about what is really bothering you, and why you might feel sad/depressed enough to be cutting. Eventually, you can make your way out of this dark part of your life.

As far as websites, just type in cutting chat rooms/forums in a search, or suicide chat/forum. They are trying to make these kind of website illegal, so be warned if you can't find anything. I hope that someday, you can find peace with your cutting and move into some happiness. Until then, be careful, and be clean!

Answer 4

Self-injury is considered wrong not because of the actual action, but what causes the action. It's an addiction just like tobacco, marijuana, etc. in that, once you start, it's hard to stop.
Suicide is wrong for the same reason, as well as the fact that it is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. It's a life gone that could have been saved. And you're wrong. You are hurting someone who means something. You're hurting you. The one fact of emotions that is always the same is that they do pass. Eventually, they will change or disappear completely.

There are several message boards designed for that specific reason. http://www.self-injury.net/ has one, as does http://www.facetheissue.com . I'm also open to that discussion on my forum: http://www.kariginu.com , as I am open to any and all emails.

Answer 5

Their are other ways to deal with your pain and cutting is not the way to go..I went through some really bad times and I like you you started cutting myself and all I have now are some nasty scars and now i'm always having to cover myself, wear long sleeves all the time ect and it was not worth it. People to this day look at my arms then look at me like i'm some kind of physco...
Have you tried counceling? Do you know what's causing all this depression? those are things you need to find out so you can work on them..
You need to keep in mind just because your not physically hurting other people your still hurting the people that love you by doing this to yourself, One day it will go to far and you will end up killing yourself then how do you think the people that love you will feel?
Please speak with a professional they can help you!
It has been 5 years since i have cut myself and i feel great and no more nasty ugly scars..

Answer 6

I hospitalized myself for self-injury and depression when I realized it affected more than just me. There was my family, my friends, and there was my two year old daughter to think about. The first time I saw her repeatedly bang her head on the wall like I did, it scared me; even though she had never, and I repeat never, saw or heard me do it. I knew life was out of control and something had to be done if I was going to survive and be well enough to take care of her. The cutting, well, all I'm going to say about that is that I never used to wear shorts for many years.

Years of therapy helped me identify triggers for the "bad" behaviors and taught me other ways of coping. Wire sculpting for me was a life saver. Anytime I felf like hurting myself I got out my wire and twisted and wove until I felt better. I have a beautiful winged dragon that stands about 15 and a half inches tall (the wingspan is about 15 inches). It took me a few years to complete. It stands for victory over my illness and the strength I found to get better. A lot of people have wanted to buy it, but to me it's priceless. I could never sell it.

Answer 7

Question 1: the point is what do you REALLY want? The problem to dissappear or you to dissappear? The problem won't end when you die. I bet you really want the first one. The problem is you don't know how to do it (solve the problem for good), and when you tell someone the problem will end with your life literally, they shout, and tell you to stop thinking about those things. The do that because to conserve the life is an instinct, and therefore you usually follow your instincts. Forgive them and rather tell them your problem, who knows, maybe they can give you what you are missing (a new love, a bit of peace, a smile, a hug...tell them what you want them to give you)

Question 2: No, unfortunately I don't know boards. Good luck, and you should rather talk with people that know you for a longer time.

Answer 8

My therapist used to say that she never saw a coping mechanism she didn't like. After all, it helped keep you alive while you were not strong enough to deal with the cause of your trauma.

And that's the problem. I've never met anyone who cut or hurt themselves in other ways who weren't also dealing with a significant trauma. Rape, incest, neglect, familial abuse....

Professionals want to cure you. Family members want your pain to ease or they want their pain at having to deal with you to ease. Everyone has an angenda and through that agenda they judge and assign words like "good" and "bad" to your behaviors.

I don't know you or what you are going through, but I can tell just from the way you posed your question that you have a tremendous amount of self-loathing. Again, no judgement from me, I hated myself for YEARS. When I was in that position, I wanted it to stop. Do you?

Meantime, try a suicide prevention hotline. Again, I don't know where your pain stems from, but there are groups out there to help with almost anything. Google your issue. For just general help and support I think RAINN (rape, abuse, incest national netwrok) is a great support.

And please keep reaching out.

Answer 9

Okay,look. I used to have problems with cutting and suicide thoughts and attempts. I still do come to think about it. I have never been hopsitalized for it because no one in my family never bothered to ask me where I was getting all the cuts and bruises from. I would pass out sometimes and get sick because of the pills and stuff. They just thought I was sick. Well, technically, I am sick. I try to think about my friends and other people that really do care for me and that I care for and it calms me down and I don't cut or attempt suicide. My friends also help me to calm down and stop cutting so much. Over the past year, I have cut down to only cutting 2 times a week. that is a big difference compared to the twice a day I use to do. But, here's some advice from me...
1. Think about all the people that care for you. Do you really want to leave them by killing yourself or let them see you cut and hurt yourself so badly?
2. Think about why you cut. Is it a pity excuse? Is it something that if you try hard, you can fix or make better?
3. I know it might sound crazy or something, but try to go to church and pray to God about it. That also helped me. God helped me when I started to go to church and when my youth pastor prayed with me and talked to me for hours and hours.
I hope I could help you in any way and I hope you try to at least stop cutting and trying suicide so much. I hope you can realize how important your life is to your friends, family{even though you might not know it}, God, and even to me{even though I don't know you}. Please think about it.
~*~LOST~*~

Answer 10

Personally, I don't think you should have been hospitalized for the cutting, because it is a coping mechanism. You learned this coping mechanism and it can be unlearned, but it is REALLY hard.

Try these websites.....

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

http://self-injury.net/

http://www.healthyplace.com/Journals/Self_Injury/Site/index.htm