I been dating a guy for 7 mos. After about two months we were exclusive. We had conversation recently that led to him saying "Yeah we aren't seeing other people, but you're not my girlfriend." I decided at the time that I liked how the relationship was, and that the title girlfriend, was just a label, so if everything else is good who cares. He calls me several times a week and we see each other every weekend, so it seems as if he likes me, and he has said he likes me. I asked why I wasn't his girlfriend, and he said that due to his current circumstances, that he did not want to put everything on me, as he is going through a rough time right now. I know this and am willing to stick with him. he says if I stick with him through this I will stick with him through anything, and then he will know I'm for real? Does this seem like BS ?
2007-02-26 07:19:42 · 7 answers · asked by atablackbelt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also he has two kids with his ex-girlfriend, they have been split up for about a year before we met. I understand that they have kids together so they have to keep in contact with each other as far as the kids go. Usually he keeps their contact to a minimum via phone and txt messages. But she calls him all the time and txt messages him all the time. He swears that he doesn't want anything to do with her except his kids, but I sometimes feel that she sees him more than I do. She will call him at one or two in the morning to talk to him etc. Over this past weekend I know he talked to her on the phone for like two hours, because I saw it on his phone. Usually he tells me that she called him, but he never mentioned this call to me. Am I overreacting to this?
2007-02-26 07:25:11 · update #1
He's certainly using you and handing you a line of BS. He's also using his ex and handing her a line of BS too. There is probably another woman on the sidelines as well. This is a game to him, he doesn't respect women so he does things to demoralize them.
He's probably stringing the ex along making her believe they can work out their differences and get back together. But he wants it to be on his terms just like he expects the relationship with you to be on his terms. Nothing matters but him and his wants.
The fact that he is "testing" your ability to stick with him is a real crock of crap. Have more respect for yourself. Let him find some other woman with no self worth to walk on. The fact that he's testing you says he's carrying too much baggage around with him. Why would you want to put up with such a jerk in the first place? Do you really devalue yourself that much? Do you honestly believe that this relationship is what you are entitled too? All there is for you? You want your whole life and future to be wasted on jerks?
Men (and women) are on their best behaviors early in a relationship. If this is his best treatment of you now, then want can you hope the future holds?
Believe it or not there are nice guys out there, you just have to feel you deserve them then you'll find them.
2007-02-26 07:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by briardan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, BS indeed. Sorry, seems like he has commitment issues. ahhh the additional details tell me he's still into his ex. I wouldn't be surprised if they mess around and that why he doesn't want to call you his gf. This way, he is not cheating on you. If he calls you his gf, then mess around with the ex, it would be cheating. I don't think you should be with him if you are in love with him and want to be his gf.
PS you are not overreacting. If you have a relationship like that with someone, you deserve to be called a girlfriend.
2007-02-26 07:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda yeah. lol I dont really know what you guys have together but I dont see how calling you his girlfriend would affect him in a bad way. That's what you have to think about.
2007-02-26 07:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Livin it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep absolute BS...good Luck ;) he wants to have the upperhand in the relationship
2007-02-26 07:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by The TrutH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it's BS...he's not that "in to you"...he's keeping you on the hook until something else comes along....trust me...if someone really loves you, he wouldn't put that kind of BS on you....he is totally immature and wants his "cake and eat it too"...
He will dump you when someone "better" (in his book) comes along.
2007-02-26 07:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
total BS!!! u sure ur exclusive??? he might have a gf somewhere u dont know bout!!
2007-02-26 07:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby,that's a pile of bull ****.
2007-02-26 07:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by ddreaddsjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋