okay...im the girl whos ex bf killed him self...for details on this go look at the question i asked dealing with it earlier....but ne ways
did he rly love me if he killed his self??? or was he bein selfish??....im just so confused and have so many questions...and i dont have a close friend to ask these ask these question to?!?!?
2007-02-26 07:16:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure that he loved you more than you'll ever know...
You can't blame yourself for his death, he made the choice, not you...He could've had many other things going on also...I'm not going to sit here and pretend that I know how it feels though because I don't and I'm sorry that this happened to you. All I can say is just put it in God's hands and try to get on with your life. :)
2007-03-06 04:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by He's my world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, suicide is so intricate and complicated, it's hard to come to some sort of understanding. Of course the biggest question is why would this person do this if they loved me. It's a reasonable question to ask. But something you have to understand is that the suicide and the feelings associated with that had nothing to do with you. People can be depressed no matter what and the more we try to change that, the more frustrated we can get. You want to compare the hurt this guy may have been dealing with to the love that he may or may not have had towards you, and you're thinking he didn't love you because he chose to die instead of be with you. All that I can say towards that is that life is composed of so many things, so many problems, so many issues, and love can still exist in a world as dark and cold as his must have been. Love finds a way through all the pain. And I'm sure when he was with you he felt love. It was just that everything else was falling apart and living hurt too much for him. I've always considered suicide to be sort of a selfish act myself; you rid yourself of the pain, but leave behind so much to so many people. But if there's one thing that can bring even the least bit of happiness to the situation, you should know that the best parts of his life may have been with you. And who knows how many times you had saved his life, how many times he was ready to do it and then he saw you and held on a little longer to just have some more time with you.
2007-02-26 07:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by bitchlips411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he love you? Maybe, mabye not. Frankly, that probably doesn't have anything to do with his suicide, and you should beat yourself up over it.
I think the best person to talk to would be a counselor. You don't say how old you are, but if you are in school your high school or college will have people you can go talk to. They will help you sort out all the confusing questions running through your head.
If you are not in school, there are usually public services available. Try googling the name of your county along with "mental health". There will usually be a hotline you can call to get more information.
Best of luck. *hugs*
2007-02-26 07:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by OMGWTFBBQ!!1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, people who commit suicide are usually more complex and have alot more issues than you could ever express here. I would recommend YOU go to counseling to learn how to deal with some of the hurt and fustration you feel. It's not a matter of who he loved or not, it's an issue of how are you going to break out of this nowhereness and move on through life. good luck
2007-03-06 06:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do or think, do NOT blame yourself. It was his choice, it was his hand.
I personally think suicide is very selfish, you don't think about the many people left behind who's hearts will be broken.
Did he love you? I don't know. Does it matter? He's gone now girl, let him go and try to heal. Take care of yourself.
2007-02-26 07:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the guy is no longer around then I think you should find a way to move on because wheather he loved you or not, theres nothing that can be done
2007-02-26 07:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he was selfish, he didnt care or even loved you because he killed himself and said it was because of you or over you. if he cared he wouldnt have did that and let you be happy without him. he was only thinking of himself, he didnt want to be here anyway and used you as an excuse. in time you will get over it and move on because it is hard that he is dead and said its over you.
2007-03-06 05:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can be 100% sure what really went on inside his head...The most important thing I can tell you is do NOT blame yourself...Good Luck ;)
2007-02-26 07:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by The TrutH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont blame yourself for what he did!!! Maybe he had other problems that you did not know bout!!!!
2007-03-05 07:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋