i keep thinking of my ex. some people in yahoo told me to stop telling this on line. well i have no one else to talk to. my ex treated me with little respect and lied to me all the time. we had some good times but i was always uneasy becuz of the lies and not knowing if this was the day for a lie. well he has bought me nice things and sometimes been there emotionally. but he never admitted truthfully to doing me wrong. he use to gawk at women all the time in front of me. he was always at a party and he never considered my feelings. so i broke it off. he tried to come back but i felt it was just to have sex cuz i had stopped doing that. well now he hasnt called in a while and im thinking of him. why is this? the thought of him being completely gone is killing me. how can i stop this feeling. keeping busy is not helping. he hurt me and now hes acting like he is the one mad. so what can i do about this cuz im about to loose my mind.
2007-02-26 07:13:59 · 9 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this sounds soooo familiar to me. i'm kinda curious to ask the guy's name...but anyways, sweetie, all you can do is live day to day. it sounds like the guy was selfish and only thinking of himself, and you like a lot of women in your postition (myself included) fell for whatever bulls**t he was feeding you and you thought over time things would get better...you thought putting the effort into the relationship would make him see your love for him, and he thought buying you nice things and being there emotionally every now and again would shut you up and keep you happy. i think you're right on the whole sex thing; he probably was just playing nice so that you guys could hook up again. you're obviously not over him, and there's nothing wrong with that. it will take time, believe me i know. and you will stumble backwards from time to time. there 's really nothing you can do about it, but just live day to day...and if he does come around again, remember how hard you are fighting to get over him, and remember how you're feeling right now...how confused and hurt you feel, and how he was the one that made you feel that way. i think that will help you make the right decision. time heals all wounds. but, you need to come to grips with the fact that he doesn't want you the way you want him. i know that might sound harsh, but if he wanted you that way, you would not be feeling the way you do. bottom line. men are not difficult to understand at all; they are not stupid either. if they care about you, they would not intentionally hurt you. this guys was doing things in front of you that hurt your feelings. i don't know if you talked to him about how his actions hurt your feelings, but if you did and he continued with his actions, then obviously he didn't care. it's time to start letting go girl. plain and simple. i know, it's easier said than done. but, believe me, trying to do it is ten times easier on you than playing the merry-go-round game. that's never fun, and you already know the outcome of it.
2007-02-26 07:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by desireme112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Being mistreated by someone you care for does hurt sooo bad but in time you will heal if you just give yourself a chance too . You are thinking of him a lot because right now you feel hurt and alone .
Start going out and enjoying your life with friends , family , get into a hobby the more you get out socially the less time you will have to think about him . I know that you will meet someone better that will be worth your time and effort .
Men who play head games are immature and only end up being the loser . Honey work on mending because if he has not admitted to the wrongs that he has done by now , he is not .
Take care and Good luck .
C
2007-02-26 07:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I don't think you should worry what other people think of you posting your question, I've seen A LOT worse hun. This guy is only out to play mind games with you,don't fall for them anymore. As the other poster said you are a princess, you are top notch quality! Obviously this guy doesn't know that so your best choice is to find someone who knows and who will treat you like the royalty you are. Find yourself someone kind who has good upbringing, good morals. Don't sit and stress over what could have been with this dude okay? He is not "the one" and he won't be no matter how much your force it. Take care.
2007-02-26 07:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nicolexoxo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 13:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than your ex.It is only natural to think about him.You must have really cared a great deal of him.Give yourself a little time to heal your broken heart.
Keep busy and realize life goes on.And love can happen
again.Just take your time to get to know anyone else that
may capture your heart.Go beyond physical looks.Check
out his character.Believe me I've been there and survived.
Happly married with 11 grandchildren.
2007-02-26 07:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so in other words, you enjoy being abused and lied to? ok then....if that is what really turns you on and that is the kind of life you want and the kind of person you want to be with, go ahead...call him...what are you waiting for...I'm sure he would be happy to have you back so that he could have sex whenever he wanted ...go to partys....lie to you.....treat you badly and never be there for you emotionally....sounds like a marriage made in heaven...good luck
2007-02-26 07:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard when your emotions are involved but be strong and move on. Don't take him back if he comes ( I know you'll want to but DON'T). And when you meet a guy that respects you , is honest and appreciates you, LET HIM KNOW you like what he's doing and give him the chance to win your heart!
2007-02-26 07:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by xplus0ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep remembering that every girl is a princess and deserves the all the respect. don't go craaaazy and don't call - you're a strong woman, you can handle it
2007-02-26 07:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing.If he don't come back,he didn't care about you anyway.
2007-02-26 07:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by ddreaddsjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋