Yeah cupid hit me and he hit me hard too but only the feelings are not mutual :-(. Im in love with the best guy ever at least to me he is, but he is in love with somebody elese who is not in love with him and wants somebody elese and thats how i feel about him. The other night I sat with him in his car and watched him cry over this person and all I could do was think about how I feel about him that way and why cant he just love me like that things would be ok then. I wanna be his friend and be here for him but im having a hard time with it since I feel this way for him. What should I do? how do u handle something like this?
2007-02-26 07:09:53 · 16 answers · asked by Amy D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem to have found your way into my boat. It sucks... there's nothing you can do other than tell him. Are you absolutely certain that he could never feel that way about you? I have this guy that I've been in love with for 3 years. We're friends and he's the greatest guy... a little too flirtatious, but perfect nontheless... and it sucks. He's been in love with SEVERAL someone elses and I've sat by and watched them all. I think the only way to truly get over it is to A. tell him and hope he can feel the same or B. try to distance yourself from him and find someone else. I know it really doesn't seem like there is anyone out there quite as perfect as him... but there really ARE other ones. You just have to know what to look for. Good luck.
2007-02-26 07:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is really quite easy. If the feelings aren't mutual, then move on. There's nothing worse the waiting on someone to return love. Never make someone a priority when you are simply viewed as an option. Honestly, you can't be his friend(at least not in the TRUE sense of the word, because you can't get past your feelings you have for him) and as time progresses it will become harder for you to listen at his stories concerning love, especially if it's not regarding you and him. Eventually that will turn into resentment and it will only show it's face in some other form. Some bridges aren't meant to be crossed. You two may just be better off as friends. I wouldnt' force the issue of taking it to the next level(unless the feeling is mutual, just be there for him and maybe, just maybe he'll come around and start to view you in the same way you regard him. On the flip side, I say tell him how you feel. You never know how it may turn out. Good Luck!!
2007-02-26 07:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Al G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amy, sorry to hear it!
Nearly all of us have been where you are. The fact that you can't have makes the want all the more, huh?
Sappy, but I'll draw from Sleepless in Seattle... you just keep breathing. Don't try to force yourself to "get over it."
Just distract yourself with the other parts of your life, find the happiness existing in the other parts of your life... work, church, cultural events, parties, friends, etc.
Who knows, if your life is anything like the movies, once you're happy and content in your life without him, he'll come to realize what a great thing he's missing out on and he'll come around.
No promises, but just enjoy life.
Best,
James
2007-02-26 07:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by tvjames 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll just have to move on with your life, and find someone that truely loves you, as well as you love them. That is what adulthood is like. Love is kinda a give and take thing...you have to give love to get it back in return. If one of you doesn't care about the other, then you both are wasting your time.
There are others out there, and you will eventually find one that you love... Good luck, and be careful.
2007-02-26 07:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, think of it this way, maybe there's a reason why you cant have him. I thought I was in the same boat as you for a couple of months after i broke up with my boyfriend, well it looks like, im healing a broken heart and my safest way was to fall for someone who obviously dont like me. I was hurt eventually but I tried to convince myself, he tells me all the negative stuff about himself, I try to remember all the negative stuff and i slowly feel now that im not deathly in love with him. i sleep better and i breathe better. my advice to you, keep your distance, u can be his sounding board once in a while but dont do that to yourself and yes you can say u can be his friend but until u get over that feelings for him, u will continue to hurt yourself when u are around him.
2007-02-26 07:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by howsare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first.. did you tell him how you feel? if not, you should. Second, if he can not return the same feelings for you as you have for him, you need to understand one thing that will always make things easier for you through out life... we dont always get what we want and we need to understand that when we dont get thoese things the only reason we hang on to them is to satisfay our egos. When you realize that it will be easier for you to get over most situations as the one you are facing. Good luck.
2007-02-26 07:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to avoid him. Its the only way. You really cannot be friends with someone you have feelings for. Does he know how you feel? You just have to go on and find someone who feels the same way for you.
2007-02-26 07:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on continue to be his friend but find someone else
2007-02-26 07:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over them real quick :] its better that way, you'll find someone else in time
2007-02-26 07:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by bebekaychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋