i'm 19 and this guy is 24 and engaged but tends to be flirty then disrecpects me but he thinks its funny, one of the things he does is that he bitches about me not bussing his tables and threatens not to tip, but i buss his tables in front of his face, then he'll be nice , say hi to me and try to get know me, then he'll make remarks and say i get offended easily and will keep going on about it, he will say things like "your sweater is ripped,do you wanna show off your nice tan", he always asks how old i am after i have told him
he also wanted to know my schedule at the community college i go to b/c he goes there too and he said" so when are you there so i can hide from you", that's also when he wanted to know where i was from and he got concerned for me when i told him i didn't like school, what to do?
2007-02-26 07:05:23 · 19 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he knows i think he is a little cute
2007-02-26 07:20:10 · update #1
Okay first of all what you are describing does NOT mean he is attracted to you. It is called harassment and that is illegal and you need to go to your boss about this. He may have singled you out because he saw a weakness or vulnerability in you. I suspect if you approach your boss they will find others that he treats this way also who were afraid to come forward. Maybe they even feel they deserve what he says about them because of their own lack of self worth.
He's a bully and ultimately the only one who can stop them from treating you badly is you. You have a lot of resources in your favor to stop his behavior towards you. You are trying to earn a living and you don't need to be subjected that type of treatment by him or anyone for that matter.
I seriously hope you don't see his behavior as meaning he is attracted to you. That's an old wives tale!! Being mean and disrespectful isn't attraction in five year olds or in 50 year olds. You need to start standing up for yourself. Do not let ANYONE belittle or be disrespectful towards you. Tell them to go get therapy for their problems and leave you alone!!
2007-02-26 07:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by briardan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, there is seriously something wrong with this guy. The fact that he's engaged and trying to flirt with you is bad enough. The fact that he's acting very strange is worse.
Talk to you manager about not serving him anymore. You shouldn't have to put up with harassment at work. See what your options are, especially if you work at a restaurant that is a national franchise.
You might lose his business but you might just want to tell him straight that you're not interested in him and that you don't like how he treats you.
2007-02-26 15:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this guy really have no respect for you... If I want to know you and I would say "Hi, My name ____ and I would wondering if you would like to go out with me even if you with someone or want to be with someone... I totally undestand I take any what ever I do... " I would first ask you for coffee and get to you know you and if you like to know me more and So Do I and I would like to see you again and stuff like that.. .
For a guy like that he has no respect for you at all and I don't care who he is or concern about me.. tell him stright up and say if you keep bothering me or anything I will report to the police for hassment...
I have daughter and I make sure she don't go thoug with what you been though and I make sure my daughter tell me and I take care of this plm.. smiling.
2007-02-26 15:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's still living the life of a young confident single man, feel sorry for the fiance, if you dig him keep in touch, he should be divorced within 2 years of being married, if he annoys you then stop dealing with him, tell your boss he keeps harassing you therefor you can no longer bus his table when he's present and more over stop giving him your personal info, I have a feeling he wants to throw one in you because he is still a player, you'd be just another notch on his bedpost
2007-02-26 15:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sleep with him before he is married. Then see if you get an invite to the wedding. Then at the wedding you can tell his bride that he told you that you give a better bj....Point of the story give up he is just having fun find another fish..
2007-02-26 15:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by simsad31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably thinking that you like him or something and that his tips are worth more than anyone Else's. Limit your attention to this guy when makes comments to you. Perception checking would help out your situation.
2007-02-26 15:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by nlocnilk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U NEED TO TALK TO UR MANAGER SO THAT WEN HE COMES INTO UR RESTARAUNT U WONT HAVE TO BUSS HES TABLE SOMEONE ELSE CAN NOT A FEMALE TELL HIM TO GET A MALE BUS BOY FOR HIM... N HAVE U TOLD HIM TO LEAVE U ALONE DAT UR NOT INTERESTED??
2007-02-26 15:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by mperez637 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like a f ucking idiot. If he is engaged he shouldn't be acting this way. he should have a little more respect for his fiance'. would you seriously want to be in a relationship with a guy like this? if he disrespects you again kick him in the balls.
2007-02-26 15:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back up. He is engaged. You need to tell him straight and even threaten to tell his fianceé about what he does if he is too flirty.
Tell him straight so he understands. You can only get hurt if you entertain thoughts of him.
2007-02-27 20:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by paulblackman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hes just a friend thats how friends who date and some times are married act. they act like asses they dont seem to care that ur single so he be just a friend if u tell him that maybe he will stop staking u
2007-02-26 15:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by @XD_inc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋