If he throws a tantrum:
I say : Do you think that is appropriate behavior amongst these people?
If he calls me a name: "Please refrain from that language, and apologize," and then I find out his mom calls him names after I ask him.
If He Doesn't want to listen, I'll say: "I am telling you these things for you own good, and want you to behave appropriately.
I am his aunt and only see him 2X a month, and instill values and morals in him, however his mother cusses, and yells, and is mean. How do you think this kid will be confused? Will he pick good manners over bad? Anyone experience this?
2007-02-26 07:04:51 · 6 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He is 5 years old. I just wrote here in short terms what I say, but I do get lengthy and tell him I love him, and care for him, and am teaching him the right way. What gets me upset is how he rebels back because his mother WON'T teach him.
2007-02-26 07:14:38 · update #1
He's lucky to have you in his life. Don't give up....just keep trying and hopefully some of what you teach him will be absorbed.
2007-02-26 07:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest influence in a child's life is the influence of his parents. It seems to me that you'd better talk some manners into your sister and not into the kid. Asking a child if he thinks "this is appropriate behavior"makes no sense at all. First he has to know what appropriate means and second: if he sees this behavior at home, he'll assume it's normal and therefore okay. Telling a kid something is "for his own good"usually doesn't help either because he can not comprehend the consequences of his own actions. If his mother, cusses, yells and is mean, maybe you should see if this isn't a case of child abuse and act accordingly instead of teaching him manners. If this kid throws a tantrum maybe he is acting out the frustration he builds up at home. Telling him that his behavior isn't appropriate isn't very true then, because he's telling you in the only way he can that he needs help.
2007-02-26 07:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Appalling lessons from his mom and children learn their behaviour from their parents (also how to push their buttons to get what they want - if they don't get what they want: tantrum). I don't think you will succeed as you are seeing him infrequently.
Depending on his age, I would drop the disciplinary language and approach and be as nice to him as you can try saying something like "in my house we don't talk like that".
If you are child minding, you would be in a better position if his parents are not there. But again, drop the disciplinary language.
My sister-in-law's child behaves very well as long as her parents are not around. I am firm, but fair and no tantrums.
2007-02-26 07:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The things his mother does are considered abuse and should be reported to the authorities.
2007-02-26 07:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cat D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is he?
Is he actually able to comprehend the concepts you are trying to communicate to him?
2007-02-26 07:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by David V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt worry about raising other peoples kids.
2007-02-26 07:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Bill Brasky 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋