I was watching a tv show, and the woman came on their to tell her boyfriend she cheated. But he cheated on her numerous of times and she forgave him over and over. I understand she was wrong, but if she can forgive him, why can't he forgive her??? He broke it off with her. (we all know what talk show it was)
2007-02-26 07:04:06 · 24 answers · asked by SexyBlackFasho 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello!!! Remember that O'l Song = Why do (Fools) fall in love ??This T.V. couple sure sounds like that song. Alot of (Men) understand that being w/someone to love is the (biggest) thing that can happen to them...Alot of (Men) are to (Ignorant) to recognize that (PRIDE) really has nothing to do w/ LOVE, some Guy's even go as far as thinking that somehow, a Woman has to be (Perfect) just for them,& the (Reality) is, is that, know-one is so (Perfect) that they are above makeing a (Single Mistake) & when the Woman makes (Her Mistake) all of the sudden for some (Unknown Reason) His (False Pride) has been (De-Activated) to the point of no return. If this (Man) had truly (LOVED) His g/f. like, He (Truly Loves Himself) than He would had in (Fact) Truly had (Forgiven Her) than the two Married Couple would have no (PROBLEM) in the Forgiveness Dept.A (Reall Man) does not (Give-Up) on His g/f. -just because of some (Fling) that was short-lived. I really do believe that, this Case was a (Blessing In Desguise) She forgave him because,She was really in (Love) w/ him... He did not (Forgive Her) because, He was more in (LOVE) w/ the (Thought) that he somehow was more (Perfect) than her. If this man truly loved his g/f.,than he would had (Forgiven Her) of all things & started a new (Life) w/ his g/f.. I say, So what... It was only a (Physcical Thing) because, When you love someone, it's the (Unity) of the two (SOULS) that really matter & everything-else is just (Physcicall) I do not (Condone) someone Cheating or anything like that but (Forgiveness) is everything in a Mutualized Relationship & (Breakinf-Off) a Love Affair w/ someone only means that this Man did not try to Comprehend nor understand that not only was She wrong- She did though (Forgive Him) of His wrong Doings & He did not (Forgive Her) of His wrong doings. I have to really say that, this Man was & has acted as if he were a (Child) that lost his (Lolly-Pop) & so it is (Ultimately) his lack of (Will) to sustain a relationship w/a Woman that (Forgave Him. If this Man had been a little more (Grown-Up) than he would of had atleast (Tried) to Resolve whatever differences that the two had & worked it out together. The Woman was the only one in the (Relationship) that acted (Responsibly) in trying to save the Relationship by atleast being (HONEST) about the whole thing. I really do (Believe) that, She is (Better-Off) w/out that Man because, He more than (LIKELY) did not love this Woman,as the Woman loved Him. She is (TRULY) better_Off w/a Man that can (Reasonbly) assure her the Reall thing called (LOVE). It's his loss & someone-else's (Gain)... I sure hope that I was (Understandable to you!!!! Sincerely, Rumeoui !!!!
2007-02-26 07:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by rumeoui 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are there such accusations of a double-standard? Couldn't the woman have left her boyfriend each time after he cheated? She let him back into her life, knowing full-well that she shouldn't.
Who says he CAN'T forgive? He just doesn't choose to; no one has an obligation to forgive anyone else. Just because she forgave him doesn't necessarily mean that he should forgive her.
Besides from his perspective, he probably thinks that he can do whatever he wants and she will take him back. Gee, I wonder who gave him that idea? Yes, he's using her. But she's allowing it to happen, so they're both at fault.
2007-02-26 15:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that was a tv show, infact this is what happens in real life, some men get away with cheating and sometimes women get away
most of the times both genders are unforgiving in this matter.
it takes a real man/woman to forgive and more than a real man/woman to forget.
i know my wife cheated on me some time ago, she thought that i was cheating on her so she had the right to do it too. but at that time i wasnt. i was mad at her for a few days, but then accepted her back, but have sine not been able to forget about it
2007-02-26 15:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone needs that state of mind. Second chances are for more mistakes. If you weren't important enough to stay faithful the first time, what makes you think your any more special now? That's why there is never a second chance in my relationships. I don't want that past ruining my future, because you know it will always be in the back of your mind. As for the guy cheating, he's a worthless idiot who should learn to end something before sleeping with someone else.
2007-02-26 15:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by wildthang0429 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men don't expect women to do that and they put a lot out there emotionally for a woman they care about, but if she betrays him he's very quick to leave. He's been humiliated because he exposed himself to her and she didn't take care of him. Or maybe things are just more black and white to men. Stupid double standards. Maybe the right answer is that all people in a relationship where someone has cheated should leave because if someone cheats that means the relationship is not okay, but women think it will be.
2007-02-26 15:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by graybear 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
lol its a man thing. personally it doesnt matter what gender you are, if u cheat u have to suffer the consequences, now if one party is just overly suspicious that's another story, and i dont understand cheaters, seriously , if u are in love or u lust after another guy or girl, time to be honest and just say, ciao, bye, or sayonara, whatever is the best language to use to send the message accross. it is very impolite to string someone along when u dont like them anymore.
2007-02-26 15:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most men r cowards. it's ok 4 them 2 do wrong but since they have such BIG EGOS they can't handle what they have dished out done 2 them. he should not have cheated n the 1st place & most of all 2 wrongs will only make it worst. i don't make it a practice 2 accept cheaters n my life & neither should any 1 n the world but...
2007-02-26 15:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a TV show!!! Talk shows set up situations like this so people watch it! It's not a good map of society! Turn off the TV and do something constructive.
2007-02-26 15:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh come on . . . those shows are set-up.
However, on a serious note - I'd never forgive a guy for cheating (just ask my ex . . .) and I would never cheat. Making a commitment means just that - you are committed to that ONE person!!
2007-02-26 15:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is because of the stereotype. Guys will hit anything and girls are extremely selective. Not saying it is entirely true, but we always have those stereotypes in the back of our heads. Seeing that we have these thoughts, for a girl to cheat means that she must have really wanted to. For a guy to cheat, we just needed another pulse.
Not saying these stereotypes are true, but they do play some sort of factor.
2007-02-26 15:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by jpc454 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋