My boyfriend told me I would finally meet his family in Sep 1st, It's been 2 years and I never met them, until now, and I'm really nerves, is there anything I need to know, or prepare, or what should I bring them as a gift? Or should I bring one gift each for my boyfriend's 8 year old brother, and 12 year old sister, any advice can you give me, thanks and have a nice day.
2007-02-26 07:01:10 · 19 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And what should I wear.I dont want them to think I'm a slut.And nothing to plain, so they wont think I'm boring.
2007-02-26 07:02:10 · update #1
S***t, please help
2007-02-26 07:03:19 · update #2
I'm so shy , I not know what to say , what should I say and how can I not to be shy.
2007-02-26 07:06:28 · update #3
Me and my boyfriend plan to get married and have kids in three years, I just wish he's family would like me. Help
2007-02-26 07:07:57 · update #4
lol first off, just relax. :-) Your boyfriend loves you, and nothing will make someone's parents more receptive to you than if they see their son is happy and in love. You've already scored some points. :-) A gift for them would be a very thoughtful gesture. I wouldn't worry about getting gifts for his siblings just yet, maybe something nice for both his mother and father like a nice bottle of champagne, or something they both enjoy. Above all else, just be yourself. Dress like you would normally dress (unless you always let everything hang out), in that case, dress like you would dress at the office. And just be honest and genuine, if you're nervous, just let them know that you're a little nervous and want to make a good impression, chances are, they are feeling the SAME way :-)!!
Edit: haha I feel your pain. I am also very shy!!! Just tell his parents as much. Just be completely honest. Let them know that you are so happy to finially meet them and that you want to make a good impression, but that you feel a bit nervous :) They will most likely see you for what you are - a sweetheart who makes their son incredibly happy! Maybe you SHOULD get some champagne, get a couple of glasses into everyone and get them to loosen up haha :-)
2007-02-26 07:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by CelticPixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be yourself. Pick out an outfit you would wear to a picnic or some other comfortable family event. If your boyfriend loves you, it's probably likely his family will like you. If you are going to his parents for a dinner or meal, bring something like a dessert or specialty bread. A small gift for his brother and sister would be a nice gesture since you have been together for so long and have probably heard a lot about them but just never met them, but it really isn't necessary. If you are really into reading or a special hobby or something like that you could bring them a book, or something related to something you really like and want to share with them. The most important thing is to be yourself and not try to "put on airs" or anything that is false. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-06 05:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you set yourself pretty high up there haven't you? lol. Well first of all, you should relax. When I had to meet my boyfriend's mom at first I was over dressed and over nervous. Depending to the occasion dress to it. Maybe nice fitting jeans and a pretty top to go with you complection and style. Oh and appropriate clothing. Flowers for the mother is always a good thing to do. And when its a dinner bring a drink or a side dish or a dessert or something. Seriously, it doesn't even have to be home made. And as for you getting into the family- its gonna be a little hard to do that since its been 2 years but also try to relate with and treat them like your fanmily and try to relate with them on another level, maybe by their heritage and what not. heh heh... Hope this helped
2007-02-26 07:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I met my BF's (now husband) parents for the first time, I was nervous too. I asked my mom and she gave me some great advice. Be your most conservative, entertaining self. As far as what to wear, I would say business casual unless you are going someplace with a dress code.
I don't know if I would bring a gift to the sibs or not. If you know a lot about them and can make a good guess about something they would like, I would say go ahead. I would bring a bottle of wine, a plant, a framed favorite picture of your boyfriend (just him, not both of you) or some flowers for the parents.
2007-02-26 07:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by MagPie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! First things first, you need to relax!!! Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and let it out slowly. Okay. Listen, this is very simple. You said that you and your boyfriend have been together for two years. Okay, two years, obviously he loves you for who you are, or else he wouldn't be with you right!? Well, if he loves you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, then there is nothing to worry about! You go to meet his parents, as YOU! You don't need to dress differently, and make yourself feel out of your comfort zone. That will just add nerves on top of the nerves that you have already shot worrying so much about meeting his parents! You said you guys are planning on getting married and having kids later. Okay then, stop worrying. He loves you the way you are, and if his family is truley out for his happiness, then they will be able to see how happy he is and they will love you! There is no need for gifts, or anything like that. Just be yourself, remember your manners, and have fun! Believe me, it's not going to be as bad as you think!!!! I can see that you are only about your boyfriends happiness to! See, you and his family already have one thing in common, and you haven't even met eachother yet!!! " You'll be just fine! "
2007-03-06 02:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by cim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, clam down! It'll be alright! First of all, bringing a gift is a nice gesture but you don't want to look like an extreme suck-up. As for looking for things to say, I'm also very shy and don't know how to act around certain people. The polite thing for them to do, meeting you for the first time and all, is to ask you questions about your life (where you work, your hobbies, etc.). When they ask questions, give detailed answers. Don't map out your enitre life, just answer with a good story (yes/no questions should be left at yes or no answers). It should start up a pretty good conversation. My boyfriend's parents are split up so I had two sets of "parents" to meet (the father and his wife and their new son, and the mother and her boyfriend). I just made sure to be myself and not try to over-impress. And wear something you would wear to a casual night at church: something that wouldn't offend but also wouldn't look too goody-goody. Just be yourself! Be the girl your boyfriend fell in love with and his parents are sure to fall in love with you too!
2007-02-26 08:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! They are just people just like everyone else. The fact they are your boy friends parents doesn't make them gargoyles. Wear something nice, but casual like you might wear to a school dance. Be yourself, smile and talk to them as though they weren't going to bite your head off. I don't imagine they have any intention of it and if the truth be known they are probably a little bit leery of how to act around you. If they offer you a soft drink, accept it, it helps create a social atmosphere.
2007-03-05 11:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attempt and communicate on your boyfriend and discover out fairly why they didnt like her there became into of course possibly a reason if her entire family contributors hated her except in the event that all of them have subject concerns in simple terms act your self, dont positioned on something that seems to skanky or skimpy yet positioned on something that possibly tells the form of individual you're, and in simple terms be well mannered in the event that they hate you for no reason thats there undertaking no longer yours!
2016-10-02 00:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by favaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. You don't need to bring gifts, you just need to have a positive attitude and a smile on your face. Just be yourself, don't try too hard to impress them. And try to make your boyfriend stay with you as much as possible so you don't really have to be alone with them. lol those are the things I would do.
2007-02-26 07:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. If you are going for dinner bring a desert or wine if you are old enough to drink. Don't start buying gifts as you look like you are trying to buy them into liking you
Be yourself they will love you. If your boyfriend is bringing you to meet the family then I think they will welcome you with open arms. It seems like your bf only brings home the girl he loves rather then everyone he has dated.
2007-03-06 01:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋