Conceived By Rape?

Question

Well I have mentioned this twice in posts answering other peoples questions. But I was conceived when my mother was 14 and she was raped by a highschool football player she was dating. He was taken to trial but aquited My mother got pregnant with me as a result of the rape but she had me then gave me away for adoption. I was adopted by a couple who lived near her and for the first 12 years of my life I was raised believeing my adoptive family was my real family. But since I have fell out with them and I am now 17 and live with my girlfriend/fiancee and my 3 year old daughter (her mother has left her with me after she moved). Me and my biologicial mother are now very close and I call her "mom" and call my adoptive mother by her first name (when I see her which is extremly rare since we fell out). I myself was raped at age 11 by a group of boys so I know how my mother felt and understand her giving me away. But am I alone? Was anyone else concieved by rape?

What said about not having anything to do with my adoptive family I was wrong. i do still talk to my adoptive brother (he is 14) and my adoptive Aunt. But my adoptive parents and I dont talk anymore except rare occaisons as I mentioned.

Answer 1

I was not conceived by rape, but I was raped for the purpose of conceiving. As crazy as that sounds. So I do understand your biological mothers point of view here. The "man" that raped me had it through his head if he gave me a baby I would marry him and we'd be together forever. It was a hard hard time. I didn't have nearly the courage your bio. mother did by standing up to him. Instead I ran and hid, and the next girl he targeted died. It took her death to send him to prison. So you need to realize how courageous your bio. mother was to take it this far. She went out of her way to give you a good life. She picked the adoptive family for you, so they must have good qualities that she wanted you to be raised with. Don't get me wrong, I think its great that you have a relationship with bio. mom, but...those others are your family. You cannot turn your back on them regardless. They took you in and saved you when your bio. mom needed them to most. She was 14, I couldn't handle it at 21 think about what a 14yr old went through to give you a good life. She loved you enough to give them to you, why turn your back on them. Its a blow to both of your moms. Take the high road here, make sure your own daughter knows her "complete" lineage, not just the biological.

Answer 2

You're not alone, simply because of the impossibility of it. Rape happens way too often (a woman is raped every 40 seconds by now) for it to be a rarity, you know what I mean? It's a heavy burden, but from what I can see, you're a strong guy who's still going strong, even after everything. good for you :)

Answer 3

Yeah, my mother was date raped by a boy from a prominent family and my mother was from a family of drunks so everyone thought that she would just have had sex and didn't believe her, my brother was conceived from rape and my mother raised him.
The man's family always denied my brother and he's better off without them they might be rich but they are scum, my mother was a virgin before that.

Answer 4

I know you are not alone. There are others. I am hoping you have a wonderful rest of your life. You've had enough saddness and pain, may the rest of it be bliss. You are very strong and doing a wonderful job. Good luck and I hope all good things come to you. Those who hurt you and your mom can burn in hell.

Answer 5

sadl ...you are not the only one to be conceived through rape...nor given up for adoption. i would recommend checking with your local social services to see of any supprt groups that exist in order that your child dos not follow your experiences.

Courage!

Answer 6

there are plenty of ppl that were in fact conceived that way i would look into a support group near you